Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Thank You, bloggers!

I just have to let all of Lara's very special blog friends know how grateful I was to get so many birthday wishes! I can honestly tell you it set a wonderful start to the day! YOU made my day! What an affect you had on my spirit, so I have to let you know you were wonderful! And Hilary, your singing Happy Birthday in a Snow White costume was awesome! I'll expect that every year now!

Happy New Year to all of you and hopefully a great one for all of us!

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Let's Get Real!

Before I seriously record our adventures this Christmas, I have to say onething about reading some of the blogs out there! They are seriously, too sickly sweet, maybe too phony concerning life and my daugher hooked me up to the blog called http:// whose blog is a satire on those who write "my life is so wonderful" bit! Honestly, I LOVE real people, who speak refreshingly honest and give us all hope and reassurance we are doing okay. I have even found myself being alittle too too. So my New's Year's Blog resolution will be of one thing, "Get Real"! In fact I am going to change my blog to "Get Real" not Out to lunch anymore! I am really sick of this everything is just wonderful and they don't have problems they don't face problems nor do they solve problems. Let's just all be "happy" ;and get along, but let's not admit we are wrong, or try to resolve things or anything like that. I have to say right here, I am very grateful for my children who are real, honest, straight forward, problem solving people! Whose words mean a lot to me as THEY write! So refreshing!!!

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Beautiful Day!

Merry Christmas everyone! Well, it has been a wonderful day, with the joyous noises of Brayden and Daxton who are just so darling, especially how little Daxton just adores his father and Brayden is such a jokester! It was wonderful having those two little ones around today! Christmas just isn't Christmas without the sounds of little children playing with their new stuff! Hearing from Bria, Chloe and Sophia and their excitement of receving so many fun things from Santa was a delight!
My Christmas was very nice myself, as I received a beautiful birthstone ring from dad and a beautiful letter from Nate. If there is anything that is so meaningful is receiving letters from my children. I also wrote one to each child and watched them read theirs as they all opened them up! It was so cool! I think that is what makes Christmas, is giving of ourselves to each in the spirit of love.
Some things I just have to wait for, but I keep hoping it will happen, only in the Lords' time I suppose.
Love to all!

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Babbling on Christmas Eve!

Okay, so this is Christmas Eve and a big snow storm is coming, the biggest of this season yet! Which, by the way, we do need! I've made all these yummy appetizers for us to just snack on and play games. My friend, Kathie, gave me a DVD of us singing 20 years ago for a Christmas show, (professional mind you)and I just got done watching it and thinking, we weren't so bad!! We were quite good!! It is amazing the perception you have when you are younger, huh!! Anyhow, we also just took some very special people over a cheesecake, whose wife is suffering in intensive care and most likely will not be given much longer here on this earth, if Father is willing. But anyhow, life is full of surprises and up/downturns and it just makes you ponder about this life and it's immense purpose. I, quite frankly, didn't get too involved in the hubbub of this season, in fact, Walmart and Maceys were both so crowded it was hard to get around, so I just gathered a few things and off I went. As you can tell, I am just babbling! But one of my most favorite things to receive at Christmas time is cards and letters! I LOVE it and I'm noticing people starting to take the easy way out and sending E-cards, I sure hope it doesn't take hold. Anyhow, my mind is qute scattered right now, I think I'll go sit by my tree and read more of the Ensign and the scriptures, I need organization, I guess, so I will make more sense to you later, or should I say to myself!
Merry Christmas Eve!

Monday, December 22, 2008

Deep thoughts #2

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck!!

Friday, December 19, 2008

Deep thoughts!

Wow, I have been busy and haven't taken the time, at all, to write here or in my fitness blog for a couple of months. But, the reality is who cares.
Okay, so my mind has been processing or contemplating some things as of late, now that I'm not teaching and thinking of that! It is simply, being beautiful from the inside out! Using our lips to speak kindly of one another and lifting others when they are down. Our eyes for viewing virtuous things and for seeing the good in others. Our ears for hearing what others are really trying to say rather then assuming what they are saying, listening with understanding and empathy! Our heart full of charity and a pure love, one that prays for our enemies and seeks through pure intentions to bless the lives of others. Our hands, that they may lay their fingers on every "good thing" may it be reading good books or doing good things for others. May they always stay clean. Our feet that they may rush to help, or walk a path that is narrow staying close to the Lord by walking the path of returning to Him. Our bowels, may be filled with proper nourishment so we can run and not be weary and walk and not faint! Our shoulders, that I can carry the burdens placed upon them with grace and gratitude, maybe carry the burdens of others for a time to help them. Anyhow, those thoughts have come to me recently and as I have pondered them I realize I have much to give and desire to become!

Sounds like hard work to me, and that it is!

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

More pictures for your enjoyment!

This was a fun day, but as you can see I'm exhausted. It is a Sunday and who said those were a day of rest??? No, really, I was doing my calling and substituting and going to choir all day. I was beat. But I sure love to have my fam over for dinner so I can laugh! And look at Brayden and his beautiful smile, can't beat that, can you?

Tuesday, October 28, 2008


Look at these beauties! This was a wonderful jaunt to "Pumpkin Land" the saturday before they left and we had a blast! The girls were enthralled with choosing their pumpkins, (would have been nice to take one of those ginormous ones home!) THat was all they needed! When we all got home, Grandpa immediately helped to carve out a spider in Chloe's. Ahh, the memories of when our kids were little. The only thing lacking in us is energy! We did get one very large pumpkin and that one I'm saving for thanksgiving and getting the inards to make a pumpkin pie!! Sounds so good to me right now I could eat a whole one!!! Yikes!!!

Monday, October 27, 2008

The Great Pumpkin!

I LOVEEEEE October! It has the most beautiful weather, and the most beautiful colors present, and just the feeling of what is coming in the form of Halloween, Thanksgiving and then Christmas! It is just glorious! So recently we've had a lot of activity around and it brings us great joy! Having our children come to visit and bringing the coveted grandchildren is something we all treasure. I love how we laugh, and we laugh hard and a lot! The kids tickle our funny bone with what they say and the things they do! So here are a few shots we took to capture the day, with our little ole'camera (wish it was more like yours Lara, but oh well).

Monday, October 13, 2008

Thinking, thinking!

Perception! Those of you who read this, have you thought about perception before? As of late, I have come to realize I give people the benefit of the doubt just too easily, maybe too generously (so I'm told) but I guess it is better to err on the side of generosity. However, it is still important for all of us to realize that we may be the one being difficult, or stingy, or unkind. So often, there is a victim attitude in this society (kind of like the politics that is going on right now!) But take a look at how you may be blocking things from happening because of impure motives. Just like my last post, take a look at the motive of the heart. It will tell you everything you need to know and then try to improve. It will change the world around you. Oh, and the more needy an individual we are, the more we need approval, when all we really need is to know our standing with the Lord.

Have a good day! Oh, and it is my favorite granddaughter #1's birthday today! I will dedicate a post to her when I get back! Love, love her!

Sunday, October 12, 2008

When things just don't make sense!

I've been thinking a a lot lately about certain sayings and what they could possibly mean and if they were always true. One was "what comes around goes around" or "cast your bread upon the waters". I used to think that what comes around goes around was a fallacy and was kind of vindictive, but I have definitely changed my mind on this to a degree, especially depending on the individual. It seems what we do does come back to us, even if it isn't fair or just or even if it is minor.
Checking our hearts' motive is huge as we go about our lives and, as we go about understanding the things we perceive is happening or what we feel is deserved or undeserved!

I've been reading a wonderful book by Brent Top, titled, "When You can't do it alone!" Plus listening to wonderful conference last week and the facts that were brought up concerning the Savior as He was with the people (us). That his responses were just right according to the circumstances. Sometimes, he didn't respond to the injustices, other times he taught a lesson, and other times he showed emotion as in the cleansing of the Temple. His example is very clear, but yet we don't see it so easily. Also, for some people, even our close loved ones, we may have to walk away for a time because of distance, or rejection, or lack of time etc. The Savior clearly points out that He goes to those who want him and need him.

This book, is relating to us how we must "Focus on Christ". And it isn't an easy take to do. But that we must "allow" Him to rescue us. There are several ways to move towards practicing this, one is to "Let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly", wasn't Sister Dalton's talk on "returning to virtue" so divine??? Virtue is not just clean thoughts, but ones that lack "self-pity" or "the victim". Rather, look for "because God has been good to me, and count your many blessings".
Pity potholes are emotional quicksand. It is wallowing time. How many of us do that???? But Top brings out that in all the conditions and circumstances of our lives, is to reach out and grab on to the rescuing arm of "Him who is mighty to save." I love his point in how Peter's failure to walk on water and the Master's rebuke of, O thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt? that is isn't one of failure or doubt but one of triumph, not on focusing on Peter sinking, but focusing on the Savior "lifting". It was after Peter began to sink that he became stronger because through the trial, Peter allowed the Savior to "rescue" him. Hmmmm, great food for thought.

Virtue, rescue, focus. Hmmmmmm. Teaching.

Thanksgiving daily for Him and our circumstance. Ingratitude is like a mirror that constantly reflects back to us our problems, weaknesses and worries. It is like a carnival mirror that distorts reality. But failure to see the Lord's hand in our lives in true perspective actually leaves us with a warped view of our real circumstance and our real true selves. Count your many blessings, name them one by one and it will surprise you what the Lord has done!! This opens up a panoramic view of what has occurred in our lives with grandeur! Because we recognize His tender mercies! A thankful heart increases our spiritual strength. Can I tell you this has happened to me! It has given me more strength to endure the difficulties that come tailor made for me, plus those that come because of other's use of agency. It gives me strength to face the difficult tasks that I have, plus to see more clearly What I must do. You truly can't say "woe is me, when you are saying how blessed I am" they simply can't exist together. However, gratitude doesn't just happen. It has to be practiced daily, and especially with our enemies or those who despitefully use us. I believe we all have people who do this to us, it is part of life.

Hmmmm, virtue, gratitude, focus, rescue!

This is as far as I have gotten, I'll share more thoughts later. This book is profound, even though I know in my heart of these things, it takes FOCUS again on it as I am in hard things. Remember, life is hard but life is simple.

Focus on the Savior for now.

"In my extremities, He has cradled me.
In my discouragement, He has buoyed me up.
In those moments when I have been at a loss for explanations, He has given me understanding."

So awesome!!

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

What are you going to be???

So Lara is bringing back a lot of memories for me this Halloween! Every Halloween I would sew up the kids costumes for them. We couldn't ever afford to buy them so I always made them. I made clowns, cowboys and cowgirls, Indians, capes galore, poodle skirts, dogs etc. etc. But now, it is much more like Iron man, Batman, Transformers etc. So the cowardly lion is really familiar to me as it always took quite a lot of sewing to make these costumes. I still have all of them to this day in a costume box, the grandkids can play in them now! I, however, was always the witch, wasn't that fitting being the mom, that is???

But, the importance of it all??? Is the memories that were created! Since we didn't have money, we always did things here. I guess the point is you don't have to have things to create memories, just yourself!

Monday, September 29, 2008

Smile, smile, laugh, laugh!

You know, there is one of my favorite things that brings smile to my face and that is Sunday Dinner at our house with Jon, Racheal, Nate and Brittany! I wish the other children were around, but we believe we take what we can get in family get togethers in the midst of very busy lives, and a very expensive economy. Anyhow, the one thing I so appreciate is the kids will stay for many hours, not having to rush off anywhere, where sometimes in the past there was this "gotta go" in a hour thing. We relax and enjoy one another, laughing, playing games, watching old films of the kids growing up and all kinds of conversations that make us laugh! ZJon's sense of humor is back and he keeps us all rolling! Nate, Brit, and Rachael are especially his audience!

Even though things aren't perfect, maybe according to the world you may live in, but to us things are so enjoyable. It's the interactions that are occurring between the kids and their special ones in the way of fun and laughter, of understanding and communication. It isssssss very comfortable. We see many joyful days ahead for our family. The holidays are next. Oh bytheway, the national average of weight gain during the holiday season from Oct. 31st to Jan 1st is still 10 pounds. BEWARE!!

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Peaches, peaches, peaches!!

Wowwy, zowwy, can life get any busier???? it is amazing when the children are grown that you fill your days COMPLETELY full of things that you hav not been able to get to. Between shopping for more food storage, canning peaches, making pies, listening to the Relief Society conference (which was wonderful, especially Elder Uctdorf's message), teaching classes, picking the rest of the peaches off the tree, dropping off peaches to friends and neighbors, making lunch and dinner, and now catching up on emails and such, where does the time go???? No wonder my feet hurt, and my back gets sore!! AND this is with Mikes' help the entire time!!! What a guy, he is so helpful, but he also knows those peaches are for him, which is his favorite canned fruit, especially off that prolific tree outside!!

I'll post pic's shortly!! The peaches are beautiful, we have done 40 quarts thus far and more to come!!

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Was this a week?

Last week and this week have been absolutely crazy, but I still get my reading in at night and my fitness blogs written and classes taught and my house straight at least a little. Now, the peaches are on and it is looking like a 11 bushel tree!! This year, I'll have to do some of it myself because of the lateness of it all, but oh well, Mike is still off and he can help, thank goodness. It has already been 2 1/2 months he has been off and his shoulder is healing very nicely, thank you very much!

Anyhow, I had to speak in Sacrament last Sunday on "Opening Your Heart" by Elder Lund! And that week was verrrrrry busy. But verrrrrry blessed. We went down to Cedar to hear Lara sing, which was incredible if I do say so myself, at the St. George Tabernacle with her friend Jackie! They sang like angels!! I loved it!! Then we went the next night to see Joel conduct the southern Utah Symphony! He is a total JOY to watch as well! Boy, when he gets in a University, they will be in hog heaven with him!! Anyhow, the girls were a ball and Lara, her dad and I gots lots done to help her put together her new computer hutch amoung other things!YAY!!

( But, we REALLY enjoy the drive, where we are alone and talking with no one around and no phones or Television or Internet!! It is lovely to just drive for long periods of time. )

Anyhow, getting back to speaking, I have to tell you this talk was memorable as we were at the actual conference center listening to Elder Lund that Saturday afternoon session! It was an incredible message and profound at that! But while I was preparing amidst the difficulties of the week, I found I became so keenly aware of my heart as it opened and closed quite a bit. With little joys and then incredible difficulties. Interesting feelings.

But after my message was delivered, I found myself contemplating the love a mother has for her children. You would think every mother would realize other mothers have that same profound love for their babies. But it is interesting the disconnect that so many have for other people. Currently, UFI is reporting the legalized polygamy and the legalized gay marriage and speaking in terms of children being adopted into any type of family, and I am not talking about the traditional marriage. So what about the children?????? When that happens their ability to choose will be nil and void. Isn't that the time the Lord does something???? As per the scriptures.

I wonder, do we really have any time to be off the straight and narrow?????
I somehow, don't think so.

Guess, this blog is truly an "out to lunch" one, ey???

P.S. BYU 44/0 another shut out, hmmmmmm BCS bowl anyone???

Two Front Teeth!

Have you ever seen such a cute face with all 4 of those teeth missing??? Ahhh, Brayden, a smile worth a million bucks, or should we say 8-9 dollars???
Love you kid!

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Go Cougars, Yeah!!!

I just can't tell you just how excited and immensely thrilled we are BYU won, AGAIN!!! BYU dismantled UCLA, 59 to 0, zero, zippo!! Here we are number 15 in the nation and moving up! It is so thrilling to watch Bronco's defense/offense take flight and his philosophies taking hold. He is such a fine example of sportsmanship and of brilliance in football. I love the mix of it all!! He is such a class act.

What do you think, do we move up to 10th on Sunday??? Let's vote.
Love ya,
Go Cougars!!

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Number 11

Going for the Goal!!!! Daxton, an energertic, busy, little 4-year old, one our very special grandsons plays soccer. Here are few shots of just how great a player he is!

Decked out in his cool uniform and awesome smile, he says "We're the Green Dragons, grampa!" They certainly look ominous!! They were the coolest uniforms ever to be found in our opinion!

I wish I could have been there. But glad grampa could with no trouble. He was a proud grampa!

Daxton made a goal, and proudly smiled for all to see! Isn't he the cutest guy you've ever seen??? We believe so, along with Brayden and Tychon.

Monday, September 8, 2008

Notes of Elder Hollands CES Fireside/09-7-08

First, I'll share a few notes from Elder Holland from Sunday nights CES fireside! It was so interesting and moving. Here it goes:

We all have a liberty jail experience in our lives. Hardships, persecutions etc. But those hardships and persecutions were necessary, they are school teachers. In fact, those of us who are being instructed right now, those lessons will be teaching all of our posterity for generations to come. Elder Holland gave us 3 lessons learned from a liberty jail experience or if you haven't had one yet, then the lessons learned by Joseph at liberty jail.
1) Everyone, including the righteous are called upon to face trying times, as individuals, families, communities and countries. The question is how long darkness and damage will remain? We must not succumb to the fear that He does not hear us. It is imperative to know He is right there with us. He is there, when we weep, He and the angels weep with us. We HAVE to endure, have to persist, keep pleading, know that God knows. He is our Father, we are his children. So when unkind, unmerited things are done to us in some cases by so-called friends, know that in that dismal dungeon, peace by unto thy soul--thy experience be but for a moment.

2) Just because difficult, seemingly unkind things happen to us, it does not mean we are unrighteous.
Falsely accused Joseph had to remember the Savior was too.
Each of us, at sometime in our lives, the pathway has to lead us through Gethsemane.
We cannot expect that we are not going to get some of that. Savior suffered entirely innocently, the Prophets also have. If you are having a bad day you have a lot of company. Don't go looking for trouble, trouble has a way of finding us.
The Savior has been where you have been sooooooo BE BELIEVING!

3) Wanting to return an eye for an eye, to be vengeful. Remember this:
The powers of heaven cannot be controlled or handled except upon righteousness. It must be done with persuasion, gentleness, with love unfeigned, without guile. Be calm, charitable, forgiving, disciplined and live the gospel at all times.
The real test is when things aren't going well-how we handle it.
It's a hard thing to do when we are offended. But this is where we practice Christian behavior.
The Spirit has a hard time getting through to a heart that is full of hate, revenge, vengeful and self-pity.
But the Spirit has instant access to a heart that is charitable, long-suffering and kind.
Cheerfully do all things,
Stand Still to see,
For His arm to be revealed.
Read Doctrine & Covenants 121-123. What a blessing it was to hear these words, but that was not all, Elder Holland pronounced an Apostolic Blessing to all of us within the sound of his voice and who attended:
God loves you, He does hear you.
Brethren: Worthy to live the Priesthood, think, talk and act like He does.
Sisters: We cherish you, God cherishes you, flag of faith has been carried by the sisters. Torch of faith, beautiful living, love you and honor you. May every righteous desire of your heart be answered upon your head.

God, heaven, brethren of the church loves you.
The future is in your hands.

Remember, He is closet when we are experiencing the most difficult times.

Sunday, September 7, 2008

To be continued...

Oh my!!!! Can I just tell you this weekend has been an incredible weekend! The blessings of our memebership in this church!! We attended our Stake Conference last night and today,hearing from Elder Packer and Elder Uctdorf, plus we went to a CES fireside with Elder Holland. So we were abundantly fed this weekend. It really put all things into perpective again. I will share little by little my notes, if I can decipher them and tell you what touched me and made impressions on my soul!! Be back later, love you all!

Friday, September 5, 2008


Had a wonderful visit with my dear sister, my only sister, and we both are like little kids concerning the VP pick for McCain. (If any of you are liberal, sorry, but this is such a wonderful country that we all get to be free thinkers, don't you think?)
Anyhow, Sarah Palin is a wonderful example of standing up for what she believes. We like that. My sister, also, left me feeling wonderful, she lifted my spirits and that is what sisters are for! So, I thought I would just write a little note on my gratitude for a sister who is smart, generous and loving. Thank you, Teri for always making me laugh and for someone to talk politics with!! GO Sarah Palin!

Thursday, September 4, 2008


Did you watch the RNC last night and listen to Gulianni's, Romneys, and Palin's speeches? Awesome, wouldn't you say? The reason being, the lefties, media lefties and Obamas camp had come on the attack, looking and digging for things to destroy the other party. But in actuality, they were panicked because they were scared of this ticket now!! The McCain camp now had been empowered by someone who did something and wasn't one of the good ole' boys! She gave quite a speech defending their camp with a smile. It really took out all of the hype in the Obama camp. Boy, it is exciting to watch! There is always going to be those who are on the attack, but will end up in the toilet. What's funny is, being on the side of right (ha ha) is always the better place to be. They stood up in a very strong, but classy way. There is always a time to stand up to attacks and hit the bullseye with just the right words! This is going to be a very interesting election, don't you think?

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

My girl!

I am just so proud of Lara, her talent, her sound judgement, her understanding of human kind, her clarity of view, her compassion. I can truly say, I know no one better as a woman in my world or in those I've come across. She is a wonderful woman of God, one who serves Him, through her mission, her ward, her family. I read her blog, mainly to laugh and to see pictures of our beautiful granddaughters. She is a talent at writing her thoughts and experience down. But one of the most wonderful virtues she has nurtured is her unselfishness.

When reading about the gadiations and the core vale of only taking from society and never giving, it awakens you to realize that all sin is based in selfishness and that is why God cannot allow the least degree of sin in heaven, because when there is selfishness things, societies, relationships collapse. I am truly grateful for Lara's efforts in balancing between giving and taking and realized she is nurturing that all important virtue, unselfishness. May we all be better at that. I love you Daughter!
P.S. Look at Sophies curls, seriously I was like that and so were your brothers. Sorry, you weren't Lara, you hair had to have perms!

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Back in full force!

Classes are back in full session and now onward and upward! These students are high caliber and so wide-eyed to learn! Glad to be back!
This semester, I'll also be adding a couple of classes for myself.
1)Institute with Bro. Hunter --- The Infinite Atonement
2)Political Science--Current Events--BYU

This should be a wonderful semester! I'll keep you posted as to what I learn!

Monday, September 1, 2008

This too shall pass!

Yeah, I'm still learning alright! Isn't it amazing how you can feel so strong, intuitive, grounded and sound in all of your thinking and then one day comes along and it all goes out the window and you become weary? How you can be an angel to many for many days on end and then one day you need the angel? That is me today! But I have to say, the Lord provided me with many angels today to remind me to be gentle with myself and know I'm not perfect and not to expect that of myself.Also, that perspectives are so personal.
But yet I should allow this time to pass through me and be patient with myself. I know my Heavenly Father really does care about me and my family. He knows our hearts, my heart. That there will be the blessings He allows me to have in His time. That is my lesson for today. Be gentle with myself as I pass through this day and work at staying close to the Spirit. Tough, but true!

Sunday, August 31, 2008

So much to learn!

This is always a good day to put into writing spiritual things that are passing through my mind that I do not mind sharing publicly on a blog. However, I do have a place that I put down in a journal that speaks of things of a sacred nature, or one of private matters that only I should see. Just as I am sure you do too. I have risked my deepest feelings with some of you, that mean't I trusted you fully, but to my dismay I have found some to lack maturity in what I shared with them. So then I learn a great lesson over again on not throwing "pearls before swine". So be very careful as to whom you share things with.

So I have been studying the Savior's parables in the New Testament. They really do strengthen me and help me with the pattern of life, the ups and downs. They help me know how "to be" or letting others "just be" as they learn their own lessons in life.

I do believe in the principle of "endurance". I do believe that in the lessons of life, have much growth and learning in them that make us who we are. Often, it is difficult to see until you have gone through those hiccups or bumps in the road. I do believe I am a very happy person and a charitable one at that, I do understand that life will not all be roses, but rather ups and downs only to be experienced to become the Priests and Priestesses to our Father in Heaven. A pretty heavy doctrine. But yet so simple. I do love my family with all my heart! Every one of them has taught me some insights to fill in the puzzle. And now, with grandchildren, this is to be the most wonderful and joyful time in life through them. I believe we all deserve a piece of that joy. God gave them to me, as part of my family, for my growth and blessings. For that I am so grateful to Him, as those children and my children, though given to me to raise are not really mine, they are His. So I must be ever so careful and grateful.

So in my study of the Sermon on the Plain in the New Testament, this is what have pondered on: Luke6:20-30
1. Blessed on us who are poor in spirituality and who repent, we can obtain celestial glory.
2. Blessed are we that hunger for personal righteousness right now, for we will be filled with the Holy Ghost. And blessed are we that weep for our mistakes and sins and then repent for later we will rejoice.
3. Blessed are we when someone hates us, because we are doing what is right, and they reject you and insult or criticize you and ruin your reputation for the Savior's sake. There are those who do hate me. That is very hard to swallow, but I do know it's their problem.
4. But be happy when such things happen to you, because it will all be worth it in heaven when you get there.
5. He says woe, which is a very bad thing for Him to say, but he says woe to you that are full or those that don't think they need the gospel and laugh at righteous people and the gospel, for you shall weep later in this life or in the next.
6. He says to pay attention to his teachings, Love your enemies, do good to them that hate you, bless them that curse you and pray for them that abuse you.
7. And when someone hits you on one cheek offer the other. It is better to offer the other, than to revile again. It is better to suffer thine enemy to take things away from you than to contend with him. Your Father in Heaven who seeth in secret, shall bring those who do this to judgement.
8. The major message is really this: is that we must developo self control, character strength, to the point that our personalities and dispositions are not dependent upon how others are treating us.

For really if we love only those who love us what reward do we have? Or if we lend to them whom we hope to recieve it is the same as the those who doing bad things.

Now, here is something that is so helpful in the scriptures that is most often misinterpreted.

Judge not unrighteously, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not and ye shall not be condemned; forgive and ye shall be forgiven. This means that we do not judge people as to where they are going to go, that is left to God, AND we also cannot hope they don't get a second chance. It does not say we cannot make judgements every day that will protect us or our families from the things of this world which are not good for us, or those who are not good for us by their lifestyle.

I love the parables as they are a story designed to teach a specific point, all of which I need to do better. I love the fact that as an imperfect being, I am allowed space to learn and to grow, but I also can hinder some one elses' growth by how I treat them. But Christ says, the true feelings and attitudes of our heart show up in the things we say about others. Luke 6:45 I can honestly say, I really want to be more like Him! It wasn't meant to be easy, but He did promise it would, in the end be worth it. Keep hanging in there. Face the future with confidence that all will work out and that no matter how others treat us, if we symbolically build life upon Christ and His teachings, we will not be destroyed by life's troubles or by the stingy acts of others. Pretty heady stuff, we are asked to do. But I believe we can do it.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Only a Dr. could answer this!

Last night around 9:00 p.m. I received a call from one of our ward members asking a very interesting question. "Deni, I know you know music (haha), this little Korean neighbor needs this song for school. She says, she has to go buy it! It's by Rosin, "Eating Zombies from Outer Space!" I told him I NEVER have heard of that!! But as I got more information from him, that it was orchestral, she was in Junior High etc etc, I told him I know just the person who will know this! I'll call you right back! So guess who I called???? Yes, the one and only Dr. Joel Neves! PhD in Orchestral Conducting!! He would know. Sure enough as soon as I said it he said," That music is cool and interesting, yes, I have it! But she can't get it because only the Instructor can buy that, so there must be a glich in the translation for this little Korean girl." Well, in the end we were so happy we could answer that question for that little gal and that our own Dr. could answer it! Thanks Joel, you're the best! And yes, you are brilliant and should be at a University. They must be preparing for your grand entrance next year!

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Football is here!

School starts tomorrow, peaches are starting to come on, allergies are here, and life gets back into routine! Say goodbye to the lovely days of summer and hello to FOOTBALL!!! Yeah, BYU football, first game at 4:00 p.m. Saturday against Northern Iowa!! Ahhh, the wonderful memories of all the games over the years, in fact, since 1970!! Go COUGARS! Oh and Joel, don't be walking around the room, we want to hear your cheers clear up here from Cedar!! lol

(awwww, I'll find a BYU picture, give me some time!)

The pig is pigeons!

Isn't it interesting how as we age we grow to love the very simpliest of things. This pigeon was so unaffected by humans. In fact, they loved us. We probably had around us 12 pigeons at our feet and of course, on Mikes' hand. They were so interested in what we might have in our cooler! Those little pigs knew we had food!
We were on Napili Bay, which is one of our favorite beaches, one that is calm like a lagoon. But guess what, it wasn't calm at all, it was 15 foot waves pounding in and ebbing at our feet. It was an incredible sight. The waves were so good, Mike, Chad and Janae couldn't stay away from the boogie boarding.
The rest of us stayed on the beach discussing the pros and cons of accountability in the PE dept of UVU and BYU. Fun and interesting! That is what I call it!

Monday, August 25, 2008

Fearless Daxton!

Daxton has incredible balance! Oh, and of course no fear of speed either!! He could ride down that hill with confidence that comes from practice and athleticism. He got that specific gene from his dad. Jon, was always so quick to learn skills, especially the physical ones. He came with all the natural talent anyone could have. As Jon was growing up on all the teams, he was always sought after. Even in High School Coach Gustin and Cooper used him for both JV and Varsity baseball. And Coach Rehrer used him for his tenure at Mt. View as a wide receiver. Jon was quite the player. Had he decided to go to college, (instead he decided to go on a mission for the first semester)he would have played (he was given many letters to Colleges to come walk-on) just as his brothers and father played collegiately. They played for BYU and for UVU/Lewis n Clark/Washington State! You just have to be disciplined, talented, and hard working to play for them.

Jon spent many a day with his brothers playing ball in the back yard, in fact, at a young age, I had them throwing rocks out of our yard into the field, which they say developed their throwing arms. Jon actually has forgotten more about baseball than anyone knows about baseball around here. He just had it. And now, his sons are carrying on the gene! Can't wait to see all you can do Dax!

Incredible Brayden!

So look at Brayden, skateboarding with the ease of a professional. Experimenting with the different tricks you can learn on one. Again, no fear. Just a love for moving the body and mastering skills.
This kid is definitely built like his dad, has his legs, hands etc. His walk. It brings back so many memories of when Jon was his age. Just happy to be alive!
I am so glad we have these two boys in our lives. They give us great hope for the future. You go Brayden, show us what you can do!

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Hawaii 2008

We went to Hawaii this year just Mike and I, with our friends Mel and Sue! We had a wonderful time, cruising (three of us got seasick) and seeing more of the island than ever. We went to Napili Bay, Wailea Beach, and many other beaches. We snorkeled, slept, ate, and played many a game. The only down side to all of this was the death of my stepmother, Maureen. I was very grateful to be able to talk to her on the phone while she was in a coma, but I knew she heard me. But more importantly I had visited with her the prior week for an hour just chatting. I thought it was really wonderful how she sounded so good, so energized. It was delightful. Since we couldn't get off the island of Maui for the funeral,due to the economy and airline situation over there, I sent two of my kids to San Diego. Nate and Lara. Nate spoke for me, (I emailed him my talk for him to read, which gave many wonderful FUNNY stories of my growing up years with Maureen) and of course, Nate made it even better with his twist on things. Lara sang Amazing Grace! I heard from my siblings how wonderful they were, and it touched them so much. Hawaii could have been better, but this is how life is. Full of unexpected surprises. It is really all how we deal with them, that makes us who we are.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Where did all those years go?

Where have the years gone? Here I am from 4 years old to 21 years old to 54 years old! And notice, I don't have any pictures with just me! So sorry. But I just have one thing to say, I have more years behind me now than in front of me and I am just so grateful to Heavenly Father for the ride!

Couldn't keep me out of the water!

So, Sophia really wouldn't get in the water without someone whom she thought was not a roughhouser or a tease, there was no doubt the men were out of the picture after watching dad and papa with the other two, so it was either Mommom or Mamah. The problem was neither one of us brought a swim suit or "swisu" as Sophia calls it. So I gave it all up and got in with all my clothes on and everything. I have to admit it felt really good. But Sophie loved it and warmed up to swimming very quickly, before she knew it she was just floating! Way to go Sophie!

Bold Bria!

Bria Denise Pukalani Neves is always talking, and has a lot to say! She never stops thinking and never stops expressing what she thinks! Quite the interesting conversationalist. I wouldn't want it any other way. I always know what she is thinking, very intellectually honest and also quite beautiful.

The Creative Chloe!

This is Chloe Diane Laakea Neves! She is beautiful and such a creative, artsy kind of girl. Just can't get enough of it. So much so, she doesn't seem to have time to eat!!

A Pure Hawaiian Princess!

This is Sophia Blake Naauilii, isn't she beautiful!! Always laughing and always into things. Very bright girl, I think!

Thursday, August 7, 2008

A very JOYFUL day!

SO, Mike has been off work due to his shoulder surgery and we have had much time to do things we haven't had time to do in a very long time. From cleaning out stuff, to writing, to studying and of course, going to the Temple. I have a large amount of names temple ready, so we have been busily doing initiatories, (which I love)(Baptisms I gave to the youth for youth conference) and sealings. Yesterday we did sealings at the Mt. Timp Temple, (usually we go to Provo) and as we walked in we saw Rich Osguthorpe coming out of the dressing room. We just about flipped with joy, (this is how heaven will be when we see all of those we have known and loved on this earth) and he said he was here for a family reunion, so we naturally asked, is everybody here? And he said yes, didn't you see them when you walked in? NO, we exclaimed!!! So out we went! And there was Lolly, Lisa, Aaron, Rich, and their spouses! We lightly screamed being in the Temple, and quickly hugged and talked about all the family! Then Russ came out and Emily and Russ Jr!! Oh, my goodness, were we really in heaven! Our families grew up together in this neighborhood and have many wonderful, sweet stories to tell of our children playing endless hours and us working out, and doing our yards etc. etc. (All when we had energy, mind you!) I have to say this, I felt this tremendous love and felt and remembered those years that passed so quickly and realized that our children were and are good human beings, out there trying so hard to find their way, but while growing up they were so carefree and now they are grown up themselves! Our boys would sell to each other back and forth for their respective sports, Nate would borrow encyclopedias from them, Lara and the girls would sing and play, and Lisa loved to play basketball with Jon. It was a wonderful reunion and I was so grateful for it, it was a sweet tender mercy the Lord had sent me, right when I needed it. The Spirit witnessed to me, MY family will be okay, and they will ALL come back to the Lord. And no one can take that away from me!
Well, it didn't stop there, we went in and did my families names, sealings to be exact and there was Sis. Ann Hull. She ended up being the daughter to the couples that Mike and I stood in for, and there we were the three of us partaking of wondrous things. I felt like I was going to cry with joy! Have you ever felt that JOY??? It was exactly that, I didn't want to leave when it was over.
But we slowly did, and off we went to the Ward summer party in South Fork Canyon that lasted all evening. It was a special day in which I must be grateful for, because there is always opposition, I love how He sends us joy at the same time we are receiving opposition, don't you??.
I hope you had a good day too! It saves us!

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Why do you write a blog?

This is especially for my daughter who writes a blog, a blog with real feelings, real experiences, whether it be good, bad or ugly, funny, or whatever! One that is full of life's experiences as her children grow and as she walks the path of life with her husband. I appreciate, as I know so many do, the fact she will put into words those experiences so as to "remember", to teach, to laugh at, and to give others hope as they walk their own path. You are so appreciated Lara for this. By the way, you can "slurp" your blog after a year. Talk to me about that and I'll tell you how you can do that for personal history purposes. Anyhow, she put me onto a blog the other day that was a spoof on blogs that was totally halarious. I'll come back with the address soon. But it's purpose was to make us take a better look at why we write what we do. If you are all flowery then you aren't real, is what I got out of it. So here is the challenge, start writing real things, real experiences without being unkind or a bully of course, because the reality is, we all need each other to get through this life. Some write just to record, some write to let others know of their current events, some write because they really have a hard time saying things. I find my blog writing to be reflective on thoughts I am having currently, how about you? What are your reasons for writing?

Saturday, August 2, 2008

Knowing who you are!

While down in San Diego this last week being with all of my siblings, I had to record this experience so I wouldn't forget it. I felt it was so sweet. My brother Jon had a son by a previous marriage, and now two more children in this marriage. things have not always been easy, but it has worked out well, in spite of life's difficulties. But while we were all surrounding the dinner table, Trevor, this oldest son from his 1st marriage said. My mother called me Trevor Stevenson all my growing up years, that he went by that name in school and everything. I turned to Jon and asked him, did they want to adopt him? He said yes, and I would NOT agree to it. I told him, how proud I was of him for sticking to his guns. But then Trevor said, but as soon as I was 18 I told my mom, I am Jon Trevor Snell and that is who I am. I just wanted to hug him. Of course, I hugged him, I love Trevor, he is so wonderful. He recognized his roots and loved his father and would not deviate even though the marriage was dissolved. I felt renewed faith in this generation! This touched all of us, as we would hate it not to have Trevor. He is definitely his father's son! The sad thing this is what is happening all over the world these days due to the high divorce rate. It just is so tough. For that I am so sorry for many families.

Monday, July 21, 2008


MIke is doing quite well after his shoulder surgery! He really does heal well, but he hasn't gotten to the physical therapy yet, and that is where he will be unhappy. But we have been reading alot of books together. One right now is called America in Danger by Studdert. He formerly worked for the last 5 Presidents of our country. He lists 10 dangers that are upon us for our nation and we better listen up! So go enjoy a good read and know it isn't fiction!
Now on to the thoughts of the day and that is one of having a personality that is vengeful. I would really like your thoughts concerning this, because it seems to have a fine line. In reading this latest book, we are learning quite quickly, and honestly we already knew a lot of this stuff, that these countries that are preparing to destroy us have that very thing at the heart. That of being vengeful. They hate we have freedom, that we have plenty of resources, that we have freedom of religion and freedom of speech. So they desire to take us out. realizing this on a large scale, what about a small scale of people in your lives that have that same personality flaw. I think of the word bitter in this too. So hence, the power of charity trumps all again, and the word of God. It is the only way.

Friday, July 18, 2008

Scramble or scrambled brains!

Hey, as of the last two days I have been challenged to a scramble game several times from Lara and I have say "I AM TERRIBLE" at it! After I learned the rules, I found myself slower than molasses. I felt like I was scrambled in my brains and scrambled in words that I didn't even know existed. BUT, the good news is that I am practicing again the finding of words which will help, uh hum, alzheimers disease! Guess it is a good thing even though it's very frustrating. Hee Hee

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Out to lunch, appropriately named!

Well, this is a surprise! Look I'm actually writing a personal blog!! Aren't you surprised, could have fooled you, right? Well, I am, and it is only to update you as to the heavy duty life I've been living as so many of you have as well.
My life has been full, that's for sure! But it is full of joy and of sadness all at once. I truly feel beaten up! I remember well Bro. Christensen always saying in class, "I feel beaten up every day and it is getting more intense each day I grow older!" I have to say I feel the same way. We have had a few funerals of those who are near and very dear to us, we have seen close friends begin a journey of cancer or early dimentia. We have gone through a difficult surgery but it has turned out great so far! We have children who care about us and who are growing in ways that we never would have guessed how it would happen, but we knew who they were and they would all get there in spite of obstacles placed before them! I love them and they are mine!
We got to go to Hawaii for a week, we have our grandchildren calling us and wanting us in their lives, and enjoying a long talk with all of them! We have had difficulties with different personalities, and we have had very joyful ones that boost and lift us! There are now challenges that are getting more and more difficult due to the economy! More pressure to tighten our belts and not enjoy life as we thought we were going to in our retiring years! There has been problem solving every day as we serve one another as well as be served! But ultimately, everyone, none of this matters, one day it will all go away and the important thing is we stuck together, we grew closer to our Savior, we kept our eyes on the Prophet, and kept his commandments.
I have said in other blogs, we have been called judgmental before, we have been called other choice names, as I am sure you all have because the reality is the intensity against the Saints is increasing, and it is increasing FAST! Does it hurt?? Of course it does, does it matter? Not really. But what I really pray for is a soft heart and endurance! Endurance to the end, one with compassion, one with understanding as so many have lost this. I know we are being refined. I just hope I can allow it, because I know it is human nature to resist it. I would like to share a little sentence that has mean't so much to me, "I will have people in my life who will hurt me spiritually and physically, but I will always reach out in forgiveness and understanding!" I really do hang on to this, because I can really say, that I have. One day, it will all be made right! This, my friends, is where the endurance comes in! Frankly, there are days I'm just plain tired of trying to be the big girl, the adult! So thanks for my place of sorting this out in my mind, by writing it down. My little place in cyberspace! So if you think I'm out to lunch, that is fine with me. That is why this blog is appropriately named!
Time to go and get some rest! For tomorrow is another day!

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

The real meaning of Strict, please stand up!

It is very interesting how many children of parents, whom, they call strict, really do not understand that word. AND it is really interesting as to how many people interpret it as loss of agency when the parents require from their children or whom the children think they are Strict!! I hope I'm making sense here!

Anyhow, I've been asking "why is a word used, why is it used when, and what does it mean in all forms?" And this is what I came up with concerning "Strict"!

To have strict parents means to have exact parents, accurate parents, precise, absolute and entire. Now, isn't that interesting? It doesn't say anything negative about being strict, in my mind it is very positive, instilling many virtues, many important virtues in their lives and in their personalities, hopefully that is.

And to pay "strict heed" to your parents, your leaders and the prophet means to take careful notice and pay close attention with exactness, with precision and accuracy, in it's entirety and to be perfect in it. Perfect meaning complete and whole!

This opens a whole new world to me, when I have had somewhat of a negative connotation from others concerning our parenting style. One of being strict. And I came away thinking, we did exactly what we were asked to do from Heavenly Father, and when we didn't quite get there, we used the beautiful Atonement set for us by our Beloved Savior!

Friday, May 16, 2008

Thoughts on Charity!

The last few years I have really been pondering "Charity", trying more diligently to understand what it really means and the long-term effects that it creates on others. And I decided to share some of my thoughts and feelings on the subject, even though I have soooooooooooooooooooo much to learn and sooooooooooooooooooooooooo much to practice. I'm more or less looking at it from a parental point of view in this blog, but I am so sure you could apply it in any other setting.

We are told in the scriptures, "Charity is the pure love of Christ!". We hear it, know it, see it, and preach it, but really how does it feel, how does one get it, and how come it gets so confusing???? Because it is Christ's way, it is Christ and it is the right way. And His ways are not our ways, so hence it takes lots of hard work, plus it is not innate in us, but must be energetically sought after through fervent prayer and by following Jesus Christ completely. In essence, we must want it and do what is necessary to receive it. It is then given to us by God. Usually, we receive this gift in the same degree that our own lives are conforming to Christ's. Please do not confuse charity with giving or generosity, because it isn't the same. Only a small portion of it. It is line upon line, precept upon precept kind of thing. And it takes years of living and experiencing that you even come close to realizing what it must mean to a very small degree, mind you!

What is the pure love of Christ? It seems to be a completely selfless motivation to help others. It is possessing the attributes of long-suffering (patience in learning and patience in teaching), kindness, humility, righteousness, patience, truth-seeking, benevolent, and hope among others. These traits are found in parents who are striving to love their adult children with "pure love of Christ". And parents develop that love as they attempt to manifest these attributes in their relationships with their children.

So take a look at where you're coming from, the Savior's way is the only one that ultimately works, His motivation is love, and His technique is invitation.

So so much to learn, so so much to practice!!!
But His trust is in us, He knew we could do it and overcome this world if we will but follow Him!!

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Best Day ever!!!!

So I can't let this day go by until I write about MY very special Mother's day! It was definitely the "Queen for a Day!" by my beautiful family!

It started out with Brayden and Daxton calling me at 8:00 a.m. and saying, "Happy Mother's day, I love you!!" along with their mother! Thank you sweeties!

Then Church was wonderful Sacrament meeting on Motherhood, which sometimes is very hard to take because sometimes it comes across negatively instead of positively. It was so nice to hear, " a mother's love is measured by the depth of her soul". And I know most mothers' have that depth. It was very uplifting!

Then a cute text from Nate, Happy Mother's day, Ma!! Thank You Nate.

Then Mike, my hubby, gave me a wonderful book that is new out called, The Holy Secret which is the companion book to the Peacegiver, so I was excited aabout that, hot off the presses. Another book that Mike and I can read together at night before bed. Thank you dear!

Shana and the boys came over and dropped off a beautiful plant, geraniums, and a lovely card, I will plant them right in my planter outside, I love it,thank you guys!

Jon and Rachael called and in his funny way said "Happy Mothers Day Mom" It was halarious. And received an e=card from them that told me they eat their vegetables without complaining by yoyo and hook??? Anyhow, funny and sweet at the same time!
Thanks so much Jon and Rach.

Then a fun chat with the girls, Chloe and her jokes, and Bria with her sweet spirit and Sophie sicker than a dog. And Lara and Joel's wonderful wishes coming tomorrow, with Joel insisting it stay a surprise!! Thanks everyone!

So was I a queen today? More than a queen, simply exquisite. I am so Blessed and I felt so loved! And I love you all!!!This will truly carry me through a very long time.

Friday, May 9, 2008

Thank YOU!!

So, Lara has been neck and neck with this other very good photo, quite an emotional one at that! And I have to say that I feel such gratitude for all of you, my friends, family, and associates who have taken the time to vote for my baby!! Not only does she feel loved, but I feel so loved too! Thank you one and all even if she doesn't win, it was really fun to play with all of you and to keep busy with something happy when life is crazy busy!!


Monday, May 5, 2008

Here is that adorable picture!

Hope you go and vote for this little girl!


Okay, everyone who comes to visit my blog,(which I'm sure is not very interesting!) Would you go to my daughter's blog,, read her story and then go to this link and vote for the photo?

she is a finalist in a photo contest, which will pay 1000.00 if she wins, which will help Joel get to Spain this month for a conducting competition, (they are dirt poor), and then VOTE for the picture??? (still remember if you like other shots better, do vote for them) BUT, if you love the picture of Sophia, vote for her!!! You have to admit it is the most darling picture of a child who is looking at herself in the mirror, mimicing her mother! And of course, I am her Mamah, and am very prejudice!

It goes until May 9th!! I hope you will look, they are darling!! Thank you one and all!

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Mistaken Identity!

Saturday when Brayden and Daxton were visiting us with their Dad, Brayden came in and in his great, happy way, said, Grampa Mike I want you to teach me how to hit and play baseball like you did Dad. Boy, did Grampa get excited. They went right outside and set up and shortly after, Jon, Daxton and I went out and enjoyed watching this little talented boy, who quite frankly is as naturally talented as his father was in this game of baseball. Jon went behind and caught all the balls Brayden hit. Which was 9 out of 10 balls, and they were clear in the north 40!! His dad was exactly like that. And the specifics aren't taught, they are inherited, the technique is what is taught and having all of these collegiate athletes in the family certainly helps with that!! When I speak of specifics, it is what you are born with, what you inherited and Brayden showed over and over that is a fact.
So Daxton and I wanted to go visit the horses, while they continued to play, so we took a shortcut behind the houses to the horse corral. Interestingly enough, UVSC had just aerated their grounds and it showed immensely. So, Dax, said Gramma, look at all the dog poops, boy there is a lot!!" I cracked up and then proceeded to say, they sure look like it, but the school just used a machine to pull little plugs of dirt out of the ground to let water in, and they just look like poops! We both had a good laugh and off we went to the horses that love Dax!!
See you soon boys, we sure love you!

Monday, April 14, 2008

I Love FHE!

Great Family Home evening Lesson! I love LDS Living and I often use their ideas in teaching FHE and lessons to the children in Primary, grandchildren or whomever! Hope you enjoy!

Do Not Procrastinate
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Today is our time to be valiant and decide to give our souls a serious, profound exposure to our Savior’s teachings.

Conference Talk:

For more information on this topic read “Do It Now,” by Donald L. Hallstrom, Ensign, Nov 2007, 49–51 and “Today Is the Time,” by Walter F. Gonz├ílez, Ensign, Nov 2007, 53–55

Now is the time to exercise our faith.
Now is the time to commit to righteousness.
Now is the time to do whatever is required to resolve our undesired circumstances.
Now is the time to reconcile with God through the merciful process of change afforded us by the Redeemer of mankind.
(Donald L. Hallstrom, “Do It Now,” Ensign, Nov 2007, 49–51.)

Today is our time to be valiant and decide to give our souls a serious, profound exposure to our Savior’s teachings.
(Walter F. Gonz├ílez, “Today Is the Time,” Ensign, Nov 2007, 53–55.)

“Today While the Sun Shines,” Hymns, #229

For behold, this life is the time for men to prepare to meet God; yea, behold the day of this life is the day for men to perform their labors.
(Alma 34:32)
Object Lesson:

Materials needed: Hot and cold tap water, two bowls, and food coloring.

Procedure: Fill one bowl with very hot tap water and the other bowl with very cold tap water. Wait until the water has quit moving. Then quickly add three drops of food coloring into each bowl. Point out that the food coloring spreads rapidly in the hot water and much slower in the cold water.

Use this demonstration in a discussion about procrastinating what must be done. If we dread, put off, and complain about our job, we’re like the cold water.

The job can become a long and agonizing process. If we quickly dig in with a positive attitude, the task can be done quickly, allowing us to move on to other things.
(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, Power Tools for Teachers, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988], p. 62.)

A story tells of a young couple who wanted a beautiful home. They were certain that when they owned a home that was as large and elaborate as those of their neighbors, their lives would be filled with joy. Until then, life would just be hard work. The couple scrimped and saved, denying themselves and their children all the simple pleasures. They worked through Saturdays and holidays, neglecting all the sweet and tender years of their children’s growing up. They had no birthday parties, few presents, no family outings or vacations. Life was hard and cheerless, but how, they asked themselves, could anyone expect to be happy in their tiny, cramped, old house? They needed their dream house to be happy.

Everything bright and light-hearted disappeared in the grim feeling that the only purpose of each day was to labor for the imagined future. Kind words, patience, treats, fun, humor, and freedom—all were put aside for some later date when the family would live in the impressive home where joy would be waiting.

The grayness of their daily lives was alleviated only by the thought of that dreamed-of house. And so the parents pinched and struggled their way toward joy.

After twenty-five years the couple finally built the lovely home they had spent their lives working toward. It was everything they had ever dreamed of, with its ample bedrooms and splendid furnishings.

They moved in, expecting joy to be waiting there for them. But the rooms of the mansion were empty of joy. The children had long since grown and scattered, their childhood memories dull and cheerless.

Now, busy with their own lives, they had little desire to come home to visit. Indeed, the rooms of the great new house were empty of all the things that had been neglected through the years. The mansion was empty of laughter, family, friends, warmth, and fun because the parents had failed to feel or create those things. The parents discovered in their huge, hollow home one of the great truths about joy: a family that cannot be happy in a cottage cannot be happy in a mansion.

Happiness is not a place—it is a way of life.
(Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards, Celebration!, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1995], p. 6)

Play “Passing Poison.”

Form a circle with everyone facing inward. Give one person an object such as an old shoe. On a signal such as a whistle or the starting of music the person passes the object to his right. Each person must take the object when passed to him, and pass it to the person to his right. When another signal is given (a timer beeping or the music ending), the person left holding the object must leave the circle. The winner is the last person left when the signal is given to stop.
(George and Jeane Chipman, Games! Games! Games!, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 1983], p. 35.)

Hot Orange Rolls

* 1 tablespoon yeast
* pinch of sugar
* 1⁄4 cup water
* 1⁄4 cup milk
* 1 tablespoon butter
* 1⁄2 cup sugar
* 1⁄2 teaspoon salt
* 3 eggs, beaten
* 4 cups all-purpose flour

Orange Sugar Mixture

* 1⁄2 cup softened butter or margarine
* 1⁄2 cup sugar
* grated peel from 1 large orange

Dissolve yeast and pinch of sugar in 1⁄4 cup water. Set aside. In a small saucepan, heat milk, butter, sugar, and salt until butter is melted. Cool to lukewarm and transfer to bowl. Beat in yeast mixture, eggs, and 1 cup of the flour. Let rise until bubbly. Gradually add remaining flour and beat well with spoon or mixer. (It is not necessary to knead.) Cover and let rise until dough doubles in bulk.

In a medium bowl, mix butter, sugar, and grated orange peel; set aside. Roll dough out on lightly floured surface into rectangle and spread with the orange sugar mixture, reserving a little to sprinkle over rolls when done. Roll up as for cinnamon rolls. Cut into slices and place in greased muffin tins. Let rise until double in size. Bake at 375° for 15 to 20 minutes. Sprinkle with reserved sugar mixture. Makes 18 rolls.

(Lion House Entertaining, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 2001] p. 70.)


Monday, March 31, 2008

Look at what is coming up!

Hi everyone!! Today we woke up to snow again, but the sky was blue and crisp! It was actually refreshing. This refreshment brings to mind how we can become new, washed clean! How beautiful the driven snow was with no footsteps in it. It reminded me of a Mormon ad, actually, that said our life ahead of us is pure driven snow and we can change ourselves, become more obedient, more humble, more willing to give of ourself to our Father in Heaven. I love that!! "Our will" given on our own to Him. I love the fact of letting go of our ego, pride everyone, and start listening. Just listen. Then we can become so moldable. Just like the clay in His hands. I think we so stop ourselves from reaching our potential. I know I have, and still do!
But the "good news" is it takes time, patience, and it is a process. Pressidnet Hinckley said, we should be grateful for the ride. Ha! Are we? Or are we caught up "in the ride" and not seeing what we need to see, in ourselves and in others and around us. So, hence, get ready for another wonderful General Conference. This conference will be the most important ever. Just like every other one. I can't think or say this enough, If we are doing something to take us away from our Savior it is not good, but if it takes us closer it is good.
So everyone, take heart!! Conference is here, and we will get just what we need, IF we will truly prepare for it.

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Another one coming up!

Ohhhhhh!! I just mustn't forget to blog this!! I received a phone call from a darling little boy named Daxton. He sang to me "I Am A Child of God" in perfect tune and every word!! He never lost his pitch!!! I was just so proud! Boy Dax, were you born into the right family! A family of singers!! I love you!!

Sunday, March 23, 2008

Happy Easter!

What a beautiful Day, this Easter Sunday is! Mike and I and Daisy went for a 3 mile walk, and noticed so many beautiful flowers popping up all over, and that the smells of the sky were so good. It felt good to be alive. Our life is good. Even amidst the hard and the ugly. I hope you all can see that in your life in spite of those tough times.

Life is Good!

Monday, March 17, 2008

Brayden, my darling!

I have the most wonderful grandchildren any mamah/gramma could ask for. Some wonderful insights into my favorite grandson #1 Brayden Michael Preston! My sister phones and he picks up the phone and says hello. She says who is this? Brayden responds I am Gramma Deni's grandson!! It was the cutest thing and my sister just adored it!! Yep, he's mine I told her!!
Another very special comment that made my entire day, maybe my entire life was a lot like Bria's compassionate loving comments. Brayden asked me, Gramma, how old are you? I told him, fifty-five!! His eyes got really big and he said, what??? You look like you are twenty!! OOOHHHHH, Brayden you are so sweetttttttt, that was the nicest thing anyone can say to me!! We had a wonderful day just being together and trotting around, chattering and playing or whatever. He is a doll and I love him, I just can't live without my grandchildren!!

Saturday, March 8, 2008

A compassionate 7 year old

Here is a sweet post I have been meaning to write down, before I forget it because it is just plain unforgettable! It was Bria's turn to go with Mamah the last time I was down there for a date, so we decided going to St. George while Mommy taught lessons at Tuahcan would be great to have a morning of shopping and playing and eating. Bria and I had a ball. She is a clothes horse and loves to try on clothes and dance around in the mirror.

It is very easy to shop with her because she likes so many things, but more importantly if I say she can have only 3 things etc, she is so cooperative and grateful!

Well, it was my turn to try on some things, and guess what, they looked awful as usual and I said, "Oh my,look at how bad this looks etc!". I got a little discouraged and decided to stop and Bria, bless her heart, said, "But Mamah, you are so pretty, you take good care of yourself, you exercise, you are skinny!" On and on she went.

I told her, " Bria you are so kind and so sweet, thank you for saying that!"

I felt one so young, 7 years old, was so completely aware of those she loved and their feelings. She is truly gifted with the gift of compassion and empathy. I am so grateful to have her in my life!

I Love Her!

Thursday, March 6, 2008

"Mamah, dkdgheksl;kehtij!"

Today I was making my bed with one arm (because of my shoulder surgery) and a familiar phone ring came. I knew it was from Lara, but I never know if it is one of the girls or Lara herself. Well, it was my youngest grandchild Sophia, who is 19 months old and very spry and very smart. She heard me say hello, and started to giggle and then said, "Mamah, godiositngheisldkghjwowkejghsoekthsleioghsldkdhsoekghsoe!" I said really? Hi, Sophia!!! Where is mama? She said "idunnoknow". She said again, "sksjdhgieidhsldkghritsdhslekcxdhgoiewuehdlkslseighslekghe!" Exactly what she said before! Couldn't believe it! But somehow we were disconnected and two seconds later, there she was again calling me, and proceeded to talk to me and didn't skip a beat!

WOW, couldn't believe that one so young was so up to date in technology!! But the unbelievable thing was she knew exactly what she was saying! Plus, she believed she was speaking perfect English and that I should understand her every word!

I love her!

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

New Church Link!

Okay, everyone, here is a new link for you to go on that is fantastic!!

What we are all about!

Sunday, February 24, 2008

Why must we suffer?

Today is Sunday and while resting in bed due to shoulder surgery (a coracoid process decompression) I watched Sacrament on BYUTV! what a huge blessing BYUTV is. It is the only uplifting thing out there on the airwaves. And I mean truly uplifting. But today's meeting was Great!!!! Mark Eubank spoke and if youare from Utah, he is a notorious meteorologist at KSL TV. Of course, now he is retired, but his talk was wonderful. It was simple and concise on our preparation for the millenium.
So many consistently question the reasons why God allows so many bad things to happen to good people. They can't wrap their minds around the fact that there must needs be opposition in all things. Even I feel like I want to run away at times. Clearly, Bro. Eubank said in Matthew it states what will happen prior to the millienium:
1) Wars and rumors of wars
2) Iniquity
3) Natural diasters.
Here is my question to you, are we indeed seeing these three things occurring today?

Why must there be these things to come to pass.
The answer is found in Matthew as well, to prepare the earth to be cleansed for His coming.

What must we do? The answer again from the scriptures to "keep his commandments". That is all.
And if we are prepared, we shall not fear!
The gospel is simple, but it isn't easy. If that makes any sense.

So if you are one of those who questions why you have to go through hard things and see the world crumble, there is your answer. It is all part of the plan. Now let's go out and make a difference in the world, by bringing light and truth to other's lives. Don't hide your light under a bushel but rather share your light and glorify your Father which is in heaven!!

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

My purse and what's in it!!

So lar, here goes with what is in MY purse!

Wallet with loads of receipts and cards and some cash!
Car keys
Keys to my office
reading glasses
regular glasses
make up bag
check book
a multitude of pens/pencils
a little book of pictures of my grandchildren

So there you have it, so "how do you explain me?"

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Join the challenge!

Getting the Hinckley challenge several times over email is great! I am really in Mormon 2 in my personal reading. BUT I think this will be good for our family reading. So tomorrow we will begin, AGAIN, and finish by May 11, 2008! 97 days, just for Pres. Hinckley who has changed my life. I love him!!

How about you????

Sunday, January 27, 2008

Oh, President Hinckley!

My daughter just called to tell me of the news! President Hinckley had just died an hour ago. I was immediately strickened with great sadness. My heart feels very heavy and I feel sort of out of body. I'm going to miss him so very much. He affected my life so immensely, and so profoundly that I cannot even begin to write them down. He has affected all of us, all of this entire planet.

From, temples to bringing the church out of obscurity to 60 minutes. From the conference center to the earthquake proofing of the tabernacle to building up the Mormon Tab Choir! All the travel he did to all the Saints throughout the world. The humanitarian movement and the Perpetual Education Fund.

I am so sure he had made his calling and election made sure.

He is now where is sweetheart is and in the arms of His love.

What a man! What a man! How we will miss your great optimism!! Farewell!

Monday, January 21, 2008

Wow, I got tagged!

Well, so this is fun! This is the first time I have ever gotten tagged in this world of blogs, by my fun daughter, Lara. It is about everything you ever wanted to know about my relationship with my husband, well, at least, I think so.

What's his name? Michael Farel Preston.

How long have you been together? Well, our 36th anniversary is June 10th and we were together for 1 1/2 years before that so approximately 37 years.

How long did you date? We met in January and dated until May and then were engaged until the following June, with the exception of a months breakup in January.

How old is he?
He is 56 years and 364 days old! So 57 years old tomorrow!!

Who eats more?
Hands down, he does!! He is amazing at what he can put away, and then a few minutes after all that, he can go in and have a bunch of m and m's and hardly notice it!!

Who said I love you first?
He did! A month into our dating. It surprised me, I was not even thinking like that!

Who is taller? Well, he is, which I love!!! He is almost 6'4" and I am a mere 5'7", hee hee.

Who is smarter? Hmmmmm, well mostly him, but I hold my end up pretty good. He knows and pays attention a little to a lot of things, which I don't.

Who does the laundry? I mostly do it! He does when I haven't gotten to his work clothes, which is rare, but grateful he does it without complaint that I didn't!

Who does the dishes? There again, I mostly do, but he will do it on Sunday's or when he sees I can't get to it.

Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? He does, he likes to be by the lamp and the alarm!

Who pays the bills? I do! Always have. He doesn't like to do it, he made him anxious, however, he is very excited about this Dave Ramsey program he got us into. So I'm happy he is starting to get involved, because I want the partnership!!

Who mows the lawn? In our early years, I did. But since we had so many boys they did, and now he does!! Oh, but we do share it with the neighborhood boys so he can weed those weeks.

Who cooks dinner?
Mostly me. Sorry, it's a fact. But he helps me some nights by picking up things for us to eat, or popping in a lasagna or starting some chicken. I'm grateful he is not a picky eater, makes my life easier. I taught him what I know, but we neither one of us are crazy about cooking.

Who drives when you are together?
It was always him for years! But he was scary to me, so eventually he let me without a fight or attack on his ego. Besides he drives all day every day and gets tired of it. But when we drive long distances, he does, he has tremendous stamina, then I do the city driving because I'm better in unknown places where he gets anxious.

Who is more stubborn? Clearly, he is (bullheaded) where I am just stubborn, and believe me there is a difference.

Who kissed who first? He kissed me first. Although, I was very glad he did.

Who asked out who first? He asked me out first. To a fireside that turned into "Scrooge" the movie.

Who proposed? Well, he did of course, does it go the other way sometimes?

Who has more siblings?
I do, I have 4 brothers and 1 sister making 6 in my family plus I have 2 step siblings. He has 2 sisters and 1 brother with 1 sister who passed away at 2 years of age :(.

Who wears the pants in the family?
At first glance you would say me. But if you look under the surface he did. But now after much counseling and help in communication we are becoming a partnership, it is becoming a "we" instead of "I". And I am very pleased, because it makes a big difference to a healthy marriage.

So I'm supposed to tag someone else in turn, and to be honest I don't know who really reads this blog other than a few. So, Shana, Chris, Sundy and anyone else who possibly reads this do it and send me a copy of your answers. Have fun!!!


My study this morning was the BYU magazine article for January on being True to the Faith. Within this article was a quote from a recent issue of Fortune magazine where it indicated "we will achieve greatness only through an enormous amount of hard work over many years....the good news is that our lack of a natural gift is irrelevant---talent has little or nothing to do with greatness....Nobody is great without work!! "What it takes to be great, Fortune, Vol. 154, NO 9 (Oct. 30, 2006.)"

Wow, what a wonderful quote, keeping in perspective nothing great comes from natural talent, when greatness comes, it comes through long, hard work! (That explains motherhood, but I have yet to achieve greatness by any means!) And along with this, President Hinckley, further explains that with this must be carried its motto, "honesty is the best policy." In matters of honesty, there are no shortcuts...There is only the simple, honest truth spoken in total candor. And I think there is nothing more honest than good, hard work!!

Can you tell, I love his insights?

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Staying on the mark!

So, Lara mentioned that this blog is introspective, I very much suppose that it is, so here is some more introspection. If you are not in the mood, just leave it, but if you are here you go.
Teaching yoga I find a lot of people starving, starving for rest, starving for de-stressing, for that tension release that we hold in our bodies. Starving for connection with their heart to Heavenly Father's Spirit, starving for their emptiness to be filled. So in noticing this and then some mentioning "meditation" to me, I have had a great deal of time to think or ponder of this very subject. Now, mind you, I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt we all have to find our way here on this earth, or in this school we have been sent to, and I know we have to discover things for ourselves, especially the knowledge of "The Gospel is True!" BUT, I am simply amazed how much time is spent looking in the wrong place or looking around it. The "it" being the gospel of Jesus Christ. His Atonement, His life, His ministry, His example. I catch myself even doing the very same thing at times. But those empty feelings are never filled. They are only filled by studying the scriptures, going to the Temple, having meaningful daily prayer, serving each other, and striving for virtuous thoughts unceasingly. Virtue doesn't just fall under moral, but follows under positive, uplifting thoughts as well.

I am simply amazed how many of those I rub shoulders with do NOT recognize the atonement working in their lives and to further explain, how many don't allow the atonement to work in OTHERS lives.

But getting back to meditation, Pres. Hinckley encourages pondering on the things of the Lord, I don't think he mean't to ponder of the negative of the world or of oneself, because of how one feels when doing so, Pres. Hinckley wants us to be hopeful and optimistic and have no critics among us. But to merely apply His atoning sacrifice as we ALL have had part in that incredible act done for us!

Looking up definitions on humanism has made me realize that we can fall very easily into that trap, which is: Humanism believes that the individual attains the good life by harmoniously combining personal satisfactions and continuous self-development with significant work and other activities that contributes to the welfare of the community.
Now, I find a couple of things wrong here which can prove to be dangerous, 1) Where is Heavenly Father in this,
2) It is narcissistic, very self-absorbed, I only need me attitude.
So to me, it is very tricky how we "meditate" and how easy it is to get "off the mark" and headed in the wrong direction away from the true source, our Father in Heaven.
How I would love for all to grasp these principles quickly and clearly, but that is just NOT reality, and not how even Heavenly Father wants it. He wants each of us to "come to Him, willingly". All he wants is our will. However, getting off track is precisely wants the adversary wants to we lose sight of our mission, our purpose.
So the next best thing is patience in learning and patience is teaching! Doesn't that mean long suffering? Yep, it sure does.
Guess I better get to nurturing that as well, but be careful to stay on the mark.

So to summarize this blog, it takes careful thought to ponder on the correct and right things and President Hinckley has given us counsel on that, but to meditate on the philosophies of men, well, that turns into something more dangerous.
Yep, President Hinckley I'm watching you and listening very carefully, it is with deep gratitude that I do this.