Monday, December 24, 2007

Loves and kisses

Merry Christmas to all!! And to all, a goodnight!!!

Monday, December 10, 2007

Laughing anyone???

Wow, it is feast or famine with this blogger!! So right now you better feast on this because who knows when the famine is coming in MY writing!( As if anybody really cares, hello!) That last blog was quite serious, and granted there are many parts to life that is very serious and it needs to be. But I think I would rather laugh! I probably laugh at very inappropriate times and at inappropriate things, for that I am sorry! There is just so many things that strike me funny especially within the classroom setting with my students.

Like this week, one of my students asked me if the gluteus maximus was located in the trunk or the legs, of course I answered her with dignity and sincerity but in my mind, it was going wild with visuals and comments that only I probably thought was funny!!
("Just remember that the gluts are part of the legs because you still have two of them nicely separated by a crack and then the trunk begins.) So I start to get a smile on my face trying very hard not to LAUGH!!

Or this Christmas letter that my son-in-law writes every year, and believe me he is totally a crack-up with great wit!! Well, he talks freely about diarrhea and then my mind immediately goes to the time my mother called and Joel answered the phone the conversation started like this: (Hi Joel, Joel responds well Hi Doris, how are you doing? Oh I have diarrhea and I don't know why etc etc.!) Well, let's face it our entire family is very comfortable in talking to Joel about their ailments! But don't let him fool you, he is too!! So consequently I start to LAUGH!!

Some in my family might think I'm such a crude person, but quite frankly I need an out and laughing is the way to go, if you ask me! Maybe I just need better timing with it, I don't know.

Even when I was on high dosages of Prednizone (1000 mg a day through my IV) my mood went to a lot of laughter and an occasional meanstreak!! (anybody who has been on it can verify what that stuff does to you)

So there you have it, my true colors, crass and crude and I think it's just plain funny!!

A serious look!

I received this letter from family in Cali and found it very moving! I believe it is a true document and that this one man's view is one we all need to take a look at. I come from military and have felt these affects from the Vietnam war. I hope we all take a look at how "we are not supporting our men in uniform" and how we are causing more trouble by the politicking of the war. My goodness!

M; Hervey, James D DCCM CNL LS Coronado, Training; Johnston, Doug W CDR
CNL LS CORONADO CA, OIC; Kelley, John M CIV CNL LS Corry; Ln DiegN628; Prenger, Kurt J ATC CNL,
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Charles W GSCM CNL LS Corry Station; Smith, Alvin B AFCM; Song, Jonathan received from a friend that I thought you might want
to share with your teams to put things in perspective.

/wr
Jack


SGT. Edmund John Jeffer's last few words were some of the most touching,
inspiring and most truthful words spoken since the tragedy of 9/11 - and
since our nation went to war. SGT. Jeffers was a strong soldier and
talented writer. He died in Iraq on September 19, 2007. He was a loving
husband, brother and son. His service was more than this country could
ever grasp - a man who sacrificed his life for you ... listen to what
he had to say.

Hope Rides Alone

By Eddie Jeffers


I stare out into the darkness from my post, and I watch the city burn to
the ground. I smell the familiar smells, I walk through the familiar
rubble, and I look at the frightened faces that watch me pass down the
streets of their neighborhoods. My nerves hardly rest; my hands are
steady on a device that has been given to me from my government for the
purpose of taking the lives of others. I sweat, and I am tired. My back
aches from the loads I carry. Young American boys look to me to direct
them in a manner that will someday allow them to see their families
again...and yet, I too, am just a boy....my age not but a few years more
than that of the ones I lead. I am stressed, I am scared, and I am
paranoid...because death is everywhere. It waits for me, it calls to me
from around street corners and windows, and it is always there. There
are the demons that follow me, and tempt me into thoughts and actions
that are not my own...but that are necessary for survival. I've made
compromises with my humanity. And I am not alone in this. Miles from me
are my brethren in this world, who walk in the same streets, who feel
the same things, whether they admit to it or not. And to think, I
volunteered for this...and I am ignorant to the rest of the world...or
so I thought.

But even thousands of miles away, in Ramadi, Iraq, the cries and screams
and complaints of the ungrateful reach me. In a year, I will be thrust
back into society from a life and mentality that doesn't fit your
average man. And then, I will be alone. And then, I will walk down the
streets of America, and see the yellow ribbon stickers on the cars of
the same people who compare our President to Hitler. I will watch the
television and watch the Cindy Sheehans, and the Al Frankens, and the
rest of the ignorant sheep of America spout off their mouths about a
subject they know nothing about. It is their right, however, and it is
a right that is defended by hundreds of thousands of boys and girls
scattered across the world, far from home. I use the word boys and
girls, because that's what they are. In the Army, the average age of the
infantryman is nineteen years old. The average rank of soldiers killed
in action is Private First Class. People like Cindy Sheehan are
ignorant. Not just to this war, but to the results of their idiotic
ramblings, or at least I hope they are. They don't realize its effects
on this war. In this war, there are no Geneva Conventions, no cease
fires. Medics and Chaplains are not spared from the enemy's brutality
because it's against the rules. I can only imagine the horrors a
military Chaplain would experience at the hands of the enemy.

The enemy slinks in the shadows and fights a coward's war against us. It
is effective though, as many men and women have died since the start of
this war. And the memory of their service to America is tainted by the
inconsiderate remarks on our nation's news outlets. And every day, the
enemy changes...only now, the enemy is becoming something new. The enemy
is transitioning from the Muslim extremists to Americans. The enemy is
becoming the very people whom we defend with our lives. And they do not
realize it. But in denouncing our actions, denouncing our leaders,
denouncing the war we live and fight, they are isolating the military
from society...and they are becoming our enemy. Democrats and peace
activists like to toss the word "quagmire" around and compare this war
to Vietnam. In a way they are right, this war is becoming like Vietnam.
Not the actual war, but in the isolation of country and military.
America is not a nation at war; they are a nation with its military at
war. Like it or not, we are here, some of us for our second, or third
times; some even for their fourth and so on. Americans are so concerned
now with politics, that it is interfering with our war. Terrorists cut
the heads off of American citizens on the Internet...and there is no
outrage. But an American soldier kills an Iraqi in the midst of battle,
and there are investigations, and sometimes soldiers are even
jailed...for doing their job. It is absolutely sickening to me to
think our country has come to this. Why are we so obsessed with the bad
news? Why will people stop at nothing to be against this war, no matter
how much evidence of the good we've done is thrown in their face? When
is the last time CNN or MSNBC or CBS reported the opening of schools and
hospitals in Iraq? Or the leaders of terror cells being detained or
killed? It's all happening, but people will not let up their hatred of
President Bush. They will ignore the good news, because it just might
show people that the President was right.

America has lost its will to fight. It has lost its will to defend what
is right and just in the world. The crazy thing of it all is that the
American people have not even been asked to sacrifice a single thing.
It's not like World War Two, where people rationed food, and turned in
cars to be made into metal for tanks. The American people have not been
asked to sacrifice anything. Unless you are in the military or the
family member of a service member, it's life as usual...the war doesn't
affect you. But it affects us. And when it is over, and the troops
come home, and they try to piece together what's left of them after
their service...where will the detractors be then? Where will the Cindy
Sheehans be to comfort and talk to soldiers and help them sort out the
last couple years of their lives, most of which have been spent dodging
death and wading through the deaths of their friends? They will be
where they always are, somewhere far away, where the horrors of the
world can't touch them. Somewhere where they can complain about things
they will never experience in their lifetime; things that the young men
and women of America have willingly taken upon their shoulders.

We are the hope of the Iraqi people. They want what everyone else wants
in life: safety, security, somewhere to call home. They want a country
that is safe to raise their children in. Not a place where their
children will be abducted, raped, and murdered if they do not comply
with the terrorists demands. They want to live on, rebuild, and
prosper. And America has given them the opportunity, but only if we stay
true to the cause, and see it to its end. But the country must unite in
this endeavor...we cannot place the burden on our military alone. We
must all stand up and fight, whether in uniform or not. And supporting
us is more than sticking yellow ribbon stickers on your cars. It's
supporting our President, our troops, and our cause. Right now, the
burden is all on the American soldiers. Right now, hope rides alone.
But it can change, it must change. Because there is only failure and
darkness ahead for us as a country, as a people, if it doesn't. Stop
all the political nonsense, let's stop all the bickering, let's stop all
the bad news, and let's stand and fight!


Eddie's father, David Jeffers, writes:

I'm not sure how many letters or articles you've ever read from the
genre of "News from the Front," but this is one of the best I've ever
read, including all of America's wars. As I was reading this, I forgot
that it was my son who had written it. My emotions range from great
pride to great sorrow, knowing that my little boy (22 years old) has
become this man.

He is my hero

Sunday, December 9, 2007

Cookies, wonderful cookies!

Okay, I did it!! I ate four of the most heavenly sugar cookies that my two favorite grandsons made for my husband and I!! I have gone 6 months without that stuff, and I told Nate I was going to and he said go for it mom, so will I!! We loved every bite, every taste of smooth, creamy frosting on top with plain m & m's!! Thank you Brayden, Daxton and Shana for the DELICIOUS cookies, delivered thoughtfully by Jon and Rachel. I couldn't have broken my fast of sweets better than on cookies such as those!!

But, okay, I'm back on the wagon!! So no more, okay????

Staph, yikes!!

Yikes!! So this week on Wednesday night a shuttering pain started on my right, outside foot! It was a crack that developed because of dry winter weather, super dry skin, and I teach my classes (pilates and Yoga) bare foot, walking on those harsh floors day in and day out! Needless to say we used super glue, we used bag balm, I soaked it in epsom salts, nice warm epsom salts, and took motrin for the pain. Nothing helped. Finally, I asked for a blessing. I finally fell asleep with my foot elevated I got a little relief for the night. The next morning, it was a little better, but I couldn't walk on it. I continued to teach my classes, all three of them. It was the last one, BYU's yoga one that I finally said to myself, go to the ER, this is a Staph Infection!! The red streak about 2 inches in diameter was up to the top of my ankle and my ankle was swelling. I started to chill a little and not feel so hot. I went on home and soaked my foot one more time and headed over to Orem Community. Sure enough it was a staph infection, that could be, I said, could be an infection called Mersa that is a resistant strain of staph to antibiotics. Dr. Broadbent told me it was early and was glad I came in and gave me a miracle antibiotic called Keflex. If it was mersa it would only get worse, but it didn't it responded well and I'm on my well to healing. The streak is going away, but the site of the infection is taking on a boil like look. It is so weird!! My body must have been ripe again for this, (meaning my immune system low) and everything in line for this bug to get in.

But the one thing I must say here is, I am grateful for antibiotics. They are wonderful when used properly and appropriately. Because healing for me happened pretty quickly. There are many bacterial strains that harm the body so fast and furiously that we alone cannot fight it.
Yes, I believe in alternatives as well, but I believe in medicine. They are to coexist together, appropriately. Thank you for inspiring research, God!! You know what we need!!

The Cellphone Scamp!!

So it seems I keep getting one certain "little" granddaughter in trouble for her photography skills on mom and dad's cell phone and her ability to send them on to me to get my approval, (heehee)!! I have to admit, I'm sure glad it's me, because of some of the risque pictures I've gotten of her mother, my daughter!! Only to be able to say, " A picture is worth a thousand words!" (No, there really wasn't as much shown as you might think!) But the funniest thing about this whole camera
thing is how her parents try everything in the book to keep the cell phone from her, only to discover Mamah is receiving them, laughing out loud at what she is taking pictures of, and then letting her mother know so they don't have an exorbitant cell phone bills, (yikes, how quick it adds up!)
Here are a few pictures she has sent only to mention a few:
1. Lara stepping out of the shower with a towel on her head, looking down, slightly smiling at Sophia! (I could read her lips, "what are you doing, Sophia?")
2. Pictures of her beautiful and coveted blanket, that she loves so much she coos when she sees it.
3. Pictures of her cute shoes with a leg and a foot in them, which is that of her own!!!
4. Many pictures that were BLACK, (what was that about Sophia?!)
5. Pictures of Daddy sleeping, a lovely nice head shot!
6. Pictures of her sister, Chloe, sticking her tongue out at Sophia, (just like a sister!!)

The list goes on and on.
One day I received 17 pictures, 2 text messages, and a couple of phone calls. Uncle Nate received 2 text messages and don't know if Grampa got any, but I think he did!! All from Miss Sophia!

Now when my cell phone rings from Lara's phone, I always ask first, is this Sophia?? When I hear nothing, it is and when I hear Lara, she says, no mom, it's me!!! This kid is something else, I've never seen anything like this before! I know my grandchildren are child prodigy's in other ways, but in technology, this young????????

Oh, Lara, wonder what her chosen field will be!! I guess I should start asking her what she is going to be when she grows up, like my mom asked you kids all your growing up years!!

Friday, December 7, 2007

What is an ENFJ??????

Amazing how things get around this blog world. So my friend Amy from UVSC sent this to me, so I thought I would let you all get a kick out of it and try it yourselves. I think I posted the link. Check it out and see if this really is how you see yourself. What is really funny is how we do these things sometimes to entertain ourselves.
LOL!!! And then what does ENFJ really stand for????





You Are An ENFJ





The Giver

You strive to maintain harmony in relationships, and usually succeed.
Articulate and enthusiastic, you are good at making personal connections.
Sometimes you idealize relationships too much - and end up being let down.
You find the most energy and comfort in social situations ... where you shine.

In love, you are very protective and supporting.
However, you do need to "feel special" - and it's quite easy for you to get jealous.

At work, you are a natural leader. You can help people discover their greatest potential.
You would make a good writer, human resources director, or psychologist.

How you see yourself: Trusting, idealistic, and expressive

When other people don't get you, they see you as: Bossy, inappropriate, and loud




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Wednesday, December 5, 2007

"Old Love!"

Oh my goodness, it is December 5th and I haven't had a minute to write anything! You see, that is why a journal is hard for me. Oh well!!! I'm dead in the middle of finals and grades and teaching, teaching, teaching, and Christmas is coming and the goose is getting fat! (Hope I'm not!) But, I can say I'm really doing well shopping for gifts. Well,maybe pretty good. Forget my house being decorated! I need Lara!! But at least I have the tree up. Slowly getting things on it, of course. Did get Daisy groomed for Christmas! The calendar is filling up, up,up!

But I have to say, I am so glad that I have been able to make time for one thing and that is studying or reading the Holy Word of God! If I don't then I suffer immensely! Right now I'm in 3rd Nephi Reading about his ministry over here in the Americas and loving every minute of it. Also, I was called upon to give the YW lesson to all the YW last week on developing talents! It was wonderful as usual for the teacher to learn or remember what you already knew! His gifts are innumerable to us as we have to ask for them. Then the VTing message is becoming an instrument in His hands through charity! That is one of the most difficult gifts to acquire and to keep! I sincerely have to ask for that regularly! I love that Howard W Hunter says we can't force people to be better, but we can inspire them to be better! I have a few people in my life who do just that for me!

Then on a secular point I was reading Smartmarriages that I get regularly and loved the article on "Old Love' vs "New or Young love" and found it profound. I totally relate to the insights there. Here is a sample:

This is research that has encouraging news!
It's also that brain researchers say older people may simply be better able to deal with the emotional vicissitudes of love. As it ages, the brain becomes more programmed to be happy in relationships...
Young love is about wanting to be happy, old love is about wanting someone else to be happy.

She was very aware that contradictory things live together. You can't look at it and say he did it purely for love, it's a complicated issue, because there's a lot of life that has been lived. It's not going to be simple"

"As you get older you begin to recognize that this isn't going to last forever, for better or for worse," "You understand that the bad times pass and you understand that the good times pass, as you experience them, they're more precious, they're richer."

"As people get older, they seem to naturally look at the world through positivity and be willing to accept things that when we're young we would find disturbing and vexing."
It's not rationalization, the reaction is instantaneous. "Instead of what would be most disturbing for somebody, feeling betrayed or discomfort, the other thoughts-about how from his perspective it's not betrayal-can be accommodated much more easily," "It paves the way for you to be sympathetic to the situation from his perspective, to be less disturbed from her perspective." "Young brains tend to go to extremes-the swooning or sobbing so characteristic of young love. Old love puts things in soft focus.

Researchers trying to understand aging and emotion performed brain scans on people across a range of ages, gauging their reactions to positive and negative scenes. Young people tended to respond to the negative scenes. Those in middle age took in a better balance of the positive. And older people responded only to the positive scenes.

Of course not everyone showed a generous response. But it goes to show you as you become "old dogs" together you really do just like to be together, warts and all, looking out after one another, disagreeing without getting defensive and accepting and remembering the positive things. '

So glad I'm getting there!

Monday, October 22, 2007

The optimistic King!!

If I don't get my personal study in, I notice I don't feel as good. I don't feel as positive and happy (well, what can I say, it is a very negative world!) Soooo, I can understand that listening to President Hinckley yesterday morning, speaking to BYU students at a CES fireside in 1994, makes you feel so inspired or optimistic. He kept saying several times into the talk, I am so hopeful for the the future! I am so old that I wish I was going to be around for a long time to see these marvelous things begin to unfold!

I think I will stay on his coattails!! He certainly has seen it all!

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

What, "die" t?????

Quote of the day for all you exercisers and dieters!!

Mark Twain said, "Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint!"

But remember girls, to diet has the word "die" in it. So be choosey of the way you go about eating.

Scary or Funny???

My daughter is phenomenal! She has so many talents and I so appreciate that she will do for us, her parents, some use of them. She took our pictures for our Christmas card/letter! She not only has wonderful camera, and ability to edit the picture, but she has a wonderful eye for poses and and an artistic eye for presentation. So look for a few pictures that may be the ultimate choice for our card this year! It is nice to have a current picture of Mike and I together. Maybe we should compare it to our wedding picture of 35 years ago?????? Would that be scary or funny???
Good question!

Thursday, October 4, 2007

Energy???What's that, huh?

I think I used up all of my energy when I was raising our children! Here I am, 54 years old and teaching 14 classes week, doing so, to earn enough for the future retirement, which isn't to far off, and doing it to keep myself from getting lonely and depressed. I love being able to teach others and motivating them to do things. It brings me great joy to share what I know. Unfortunately not always does anyone want to listen. Oh well. I just keep trying.

But getting back to the energy thing. I just don't have a lot of energy anymore, where did it go? Did I use it up, really, teaching, training, telling those kids how to be happy, independent adults? I certainly helped deliver 1 million newspapers, clean 1 million rooms up, and I'm sure I went to one million games, parent teacher conferences, lessons, church activities, concerts, etc. etc. I'm sure I read one million books to and with my kids, and washed one million dishes as well as prepared one million dinners, (even though that has gone by the wayside too, we eat simply, chicken and a wonderful tossed salad) I am also sure I ran up and down stairs over one millions times, cleaned toilets one million and counting times!!! I am also sure I waited up for one million times for the kids to come home and I'm sure I worried a million times too. Need I say more?????

But why do I feel as if I didn't do anything in raising my children????

Was it a dream? Did nobody notice, or didn't anybody believe I did that? So why no energy???? Because I guess I used it up!! What say ye????

Probably better go clean my house up for the 0ne millionth and one time!

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

There is no free lunch!

Sorry I've been gone again, but I just can't seem to get to this blog! But here is my thought for today since I study, at least I get that done! From Elder James E. Faust, Ensign, May 2003. M My dear young friends, there is another great truth that you young men (women) must learn. It is that everything has a price. There is a price to pay for success, fulfillment, accomplishment, and joy. There are no freebies. If you don't pay the price that is needed for success, you will pay the price of failure. Preparation, work, study, and service are required to achieve and find happiness. Disobedience and lack of preparation carry a terrible price tag. As priesthood holder of this Church, part of the price we need to pay is by living differently from the world. We are the possessors and custodians of these commanding powers which can and do roll back the power of Satan on the earth. With all my heart I urge you to please help[ us push back the world. We must stand against the wind. Sometimes we must be unpopular and simply say, "this is not right!"

So hence that is why I would teach all my children as they grew up this line "There is no free lunch." For everything we do there is a price. Hard road to learn, I think. But thankfully God has a plan for each of us, one we can't see, but hopefully feel and that we will make the decision to help Him roll back the world!

Monday, September 17, 2007

Good Stuff!

On Becoming Christlike! Have you ever thought about the Savior having all emotions? From love and compassion to disappointment and even anger???? Well, he did!! You can see it and read about it in the scriptures. The main difference was this, His anger was deliberate, controlled and sure. (Look at the money changers in the temple)
Usually anger is out of control, without the Spirit. Which is usually where the natural man gets hung up!
Look at Joseph Smith, even he had a moment where he expressed this in Liberty Jail! It was controlled and deliberate!
Now, don't get me wrong, we aren't given permission to always get angry. But there will be times we must express it, as the Savior did, to stop an evil thing from happening.
I just love the gospel and believe it is just plain "Good Stuff"!

What???? You mean I have to work????

No humor today folks but serious contemplation!!! Sorry!! But I've been pondering, (do you notice I ponder a lot????) the concept of some self-help programs and some programs like life-coaches etc. All of these things are easy to sell, they catch on really fast and they sound really really good!! I have even gotten caught up in a few myself. But the reality they are not lasting!
Here is the reason why!! Because "it takes away the responsibility of the person", it takes away the work and ownership of that individual. It is like other Christian churches that teach we are saved by grace alone. There is no sacrifice or work involved.

The universe is based on eternal laws, they keep eternity going, but if we go against them, those things or ways cannot last! The God of Heaven gave us these laws to live by, to become like Him, so we can progress like Him. Lucifer's plan really sounded good at the beginning, but the direct result would have been, loss of unity, loss of love, respect and everything would fall apart.

George Q. Cannon said (paraphrased) that when we are tested, Heavenly Father already knows what are going to do, but really it is for us to see what we are capable of doing. Now go and learn what you CAN do!!

So if Lucifer was in charge there would have been corruption in heaven. What is that corruption??
It is selfishness! All sin, transgression etc is rooted in selfishness. When you are thinking of you instead of someone else.
You consume rather than produce. So like with a car, if you don't put gas in it it stops running.
Selfless=prosper
Selfish=only take (that taking runs out)
The gadianton robbers are a perfect example of this issue. It is in the Book of Mormon for a purpose, ever wonder why?? Here it is.
They were consumers never producers, they took from others (robbed) until there was no more. This forced them to produce which they never did, so they were stuck. They fell apart!

Listen with your spiritual ears! This is why heavenly Father can not allow even the least degree of sin into the kingdom of heaven. It would collapse and fall apart! So apply this to your relationships, your home, your callings, your Presidency etc etc. All of life.
Rooting out selfishness just cannot be easy, placing blame on something/someone takes the responsibility out (some self help programs)! Takes the work, the sacrifice out.
So many churches do not require sacrifice or work, hmmmmmm.
So many self help groups do not require sacrifice, apology, ownership or responsibility, hmmmmm! These are all important to God's Kingdom, to become selfless!!
Now, an interesting point, if we think we are selfless, we most likely aren't, if we think we are humble, we most likely aren't. But the upside is, we may not become perfect in this life,( perfect meaning complete finished), but we CAN work on becoming pure!! Becoming more like Him!
We are always learning, we are always progressing or we are going the opposite direction!

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Anxiously Engaged!

It warms my heart to see many of my friends and neighbors in our ward, and of course elsewhere, serve one another and lift one another. It is so heartening that I have so many friends who care and love us. They have been a great source of strength throughout my life.

Growing up as a non-member and becoming a member just boggles my mind! He truly has led my "footsteps" to His kingdom and I don't know where I would be had I not become a member! It truly is the most significant thing in my life. It has made it possible for my children to grow up to be good, good people.

But here is another ponderment, our whole goal in life is to help one another get back to our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus Christ! So we ought to be anxiously engaged!!

Let's go!!!!!

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Ponderment????

Well, I guess it's been awhile again, but since UVSC and BYU started, my life is back to NORMAL????? So far the students I have in class are jewels filled with a love of what they are participating in. It has been so much FUN!! I have adopted a quote which helps all of us see the workout in it's proper perspective but also in life as well!

"Shouldn't expect easiness and perfection, but work and progression!"

To me that says volumes!!! In life, in class, in families, in relationships, in every thing we do!

So everyone there is your uplifting quote for ponderment!! Especially all of you perfectionists out there!

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

What is up with this?????

What is up with this!!! I, or should I say we, Dr. Catherine Kipp and I are just flabbergasted that my hormones are worse, my thyroid is worse, etc is worse again, than ever!! My insulin resistance went up yet again, but a huge jump. She said it is all due to not absorbing or assimilating anything, what I did this last time actually caused me more trouble. So now I'm upping yet again the thyroid, changing bi-est progesterone stuff and getting ph strips to test my acidity!!

No wonder, I feel fatigued beyond description.

Oh well, who cares, right????

I'm just so grateful for class of fun students who take my mind off of it!!

Monday, August 27, 2007

One of those epiphanies!

This blog is a little on the serious side, a reflective side, one that is prompted through a sentence that stood out to me a month ago in a talk in our ward. This sentence spoke right to me, as loud and clear as anything, AND, has stuck with me. It is as if it was said a few moments ago, so I know where it came from and who it came from directly to me. This sentence is "Just because you believe something to be true, doesn't make it so!"
Now, maybe you are wondering what is it that made this so meaningful to me or an answer so to speak, well, I can't share that with you, only in cryptic terms. But over my life, there have been many friends close to me, right? Like all of us. But sometimes things or issues were grossly misinterpreted. Maybe about how things were said, or done, or whatever. I, would feel so bad about it, because it was never my intention or I was completely misunderstood or what have you. (This blog kind of goes along with my dd's experience with friends who misread things, or just do not understand!)

This is where I would get into trouble because I would try desperately to explain what I really mean't in all colors, shapes and forms. But that individual was stuck on believing what they wanted to believe. So it just made things worse me trying so hard to "fix" it. Because they had a problem that day or whenever, it was grossly misunderstood. So hence, the statement up above. This statement is just for me. "Just because you believe something is true, doesn't make it so" helps me to be fine with myself. Just let the other person go on doing whatever, but, myself? Well, I'm still okay with me. This is where I can get a great use of the atonement. Remember the peace which he can give through knowing all will be made right in the end. I just love that!

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Tender Mercies of the Lord, AGAIN!!

Today, the Lord gave me many tender mercies, AGAIN!! I'm telling you, if ever you have any reason to feel down at all, He is aware and sends you these little tender mercies. So here are a few to mention in order:
1) One of my new instructors telling me what good things she has heard about my teaching etc. Thank you Allison!
2) Getting a phone call from Sophia (13 month old who plays with her mommies phone and my number is always the button she pushes) and she is really starting to talk A LOT!!! I love you Sophia.
3) A Beautiful "Happy Grandparents Day" Card from my two beautiful grandsons, that their mother,(who by the way, has always been very thoughtful) had them send. Thank-you Shana and boys!! I love you.
4) Going to lunch with my son, Nate, and having really good conversations on a spiritual level that gives me a feeling of connection! Thank you Nate for your time, I Love You!
5) Didn't sleep last night (hormones again) but I got to nap for 1/2 hour today! Thank You God for this.
And the Day isn't over! I know more is to come. That is the way it works! Tender Mercies. He is always giving them to us frequently during the day and I am so appreciative of them, because I need them and everyone else does too!
I hope you are getting as much as I am!

Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Home again, home again!

When we got up on Saturday morning and packed up, checked out and walked out onto the streets of New York City at 54th and 6th Ave, it was an astoundingly beautiful day!! After that heavy rain it had cleaned out every thing and the air was crisp and the sky as blue as in Utah!! It was a sight to behold! We really wanted to stay another day, but oh well, couldn't, had to catch a train into Long Island! It was fun though. With suitcases rolling behind us, we caught our last cab in NYC to Penn Station! Underground, again, we went and bought our tickets to Ronkonkama station. Isn't that the funniest word??? Ronkonkama!! No wonder those New Yorkers sound the way they do the words they have to say! It took about an hour and a half to get there, and to be honest that part of Long Island we saw wasn't the greatest, however, I know that there are beautiful parts of Long Island in the Hamptons, Coney Island and other places. But we didn't get to see that. We did pass through a town called Jamaica and guess what people live there??? You got it Jamaicans!! They are colorful people and we sat next to a few on the train who got off at that stop. (These were women who had the very curvaceous bootee) Hee hee. Anyhow, when we arrived it was very easy to find a cab and we got a hilarious one at that. First of all he didn't have any teeth left, but was such a happy soul!! He talked to us about being a truck driver all over the country and loved Salt Lake City. He wanted to go back. This was one of his comments that made us roar!! "You live in heaven, I live in hell!!" What a character.
So now we are at the Long Island ISLIP airport ready to get on a Southwest flight to Chicago Midway airport. We seem to have to wait a very long time that these airports but we found a little grill and ate lunch and then a nice bookstore where I bought a book, "The Diana Chronicles" which I have gotten into about Princess Diana.
When we hit Chicago, I'm telling you landing at the airport is the scariest part of our trip, they land fast and steep and then they bounce two or three times. Lara and I always held each other tight and then laugh to stay calm.
Finally getting into Salt Lake we got our luggage and drove our last leg home chatting about the things we really loved about our trip!! This trip was a dream come true. I recommend all Mothers and daughters to do some thing like this occasionally, it is very special!
We when arrived home we were greeted by Daisy and then the guys and the girls. It was nice!! We stayed up and talked about the trip until wee hours of the night with Joel and Mike (Mike had to get up early for Bishopric so he went to bed at a decent hour) But it was great!!!
Now back to real life!!
But, hey Lara, how about we begin dreaming of a trip to London next???

Sunday, August 19, 2007

Our last Real Day, waaaaahhhh!







So our last real day in New York was one of getting in as much as we could for tomorrow we leave!! We left fairly early in the morning so we could get in breakfast, the Lincoln Center and an 11:00 Endowment session at the Manhattan Temple, which by the way, was nestled between two high rises and directly across from the Metropolitan Opera which has much meaning for me anyhow because of my mother. It was a very rainy day and everyone, I mean everyone, has an umbrella, makes it kind of hard getting around, we bump into each other, but, it is funny to see who is going to go high or low with the umbrella when passing someone, alot of someones actually. Anyhow, while crossing the street right at Broadway and Columbus, right in front of the temple with our nice dress clothes on, a person saw an opportunity to splah us really good!!! Remember I said it was raining, and when it rains it pours there. So needless to say we were drenched. When walking in the foyer of the temple building, there was a security guard there who asked us if that was us who got splashed. I asked him if it was on purpose and he said Oh Yes!! After a wonderful session in the Temple and funny, but a friend of mine and her family were there too at the same time, same session, across the continent and out of 17 of us Deenie Asay and her family and Lara and I were there. But it was a most beaautiful Temple, especially the Terrestrial room!! Gorgeous. You've got to go!!




Off to lunch next, a wonderful little Mexican Food restaurant nestled off to the side on Columbus!! And then to the museum of Natural History!! We only had an hour to spend there but it was interesting, alot of Aztec style goods and war materials. Also, space information, including how much you would weigh on Mars, Venus Jupiter etc. Wouldn't mind weighing in at 50 lbs. This museum was our least desired, so then we crossed right through Central Park on the roadway, about a mile or so to get to Central Park East and went to The Metropolitan Museum of Art. They had a Roman and Greek Art showing and I loved that myself. They didn't have much by way of art of the greats, just paintings of the some of the greats that were owned by people.




We had gotten tickets that mornng for a musical "Curtains" with David Hyde Pierce, Frazier's brother in the show Frazier. It was pretty good. He was very good, but for me, I could have taken it or left it. I really wanted to see the revival of A Chorus Line but there was only partial view's left for half price.

We did have great seats though and the second half was good, I should say the first half wasn't as interesting to me. The acting was great, the dancing was good, I just want' crazy about the whole story.
These were our seats, can you tell how good they were? They were really good!

We walked in our Hotel about 11:30 at night and boy were we exhausted!! But what a great day, filled to the brim. I want to go back really bad. I love New York City!!

Thursday, August 16, 2007

The Best Day!

New York, New York!!!!


Look, there is Good Morning America, Times Square!!
Walking with my daughter to Times Square!!
Rockefeller Center, you know where the Christmas Tree is and the Ice Skating is!!
Streets of New York City, down by the theatre district!

This day, Thursday, August 9, 2007 was perhaps one of my favorite days!! We started out by just going to Starbucks and getting fruit and a scone for breakfast! Then off on foot to try to get to the Empire State Building. We ended up taking the subway part of the way and then walking the rest and we had a bit of a wait in the normal line! Once up there it was all so worth it! We took in such beauty, we could see New Jersey, the Bronx and further to Connecticut!!
If you look really closely you can see the tall buildings at the far end of this photo, That is the financial district which is where the WTC's were. How sad that was! I felt really sad about it.

After coming out of the Empire State Building, I always enjoyed talking to the Beat Police and they let me take a picture of them, but Lara has that so look for that later.

Then off by cab to the Circle Line Cruises for a 3-hour cruise around Manhattan Island. That was phenomenal as well.We were able to see every neighborhood from uptown, midtown, downtown and financial district, plus Harlem, and Columbia University area!! It was fantastic!Look at how close we were to her!!! She was awe-inspiring!! She caused me to reflect of who I was, an American, with Liberty and Justice for all!!! She is so beautiful!
This shot is where the World Trade Centers once stood. Just look at the Green tops, domed and squared, they stood between those. This is now sacred ground. Maybe died there.

There is so much to share, but I won't bore you. After this cruise we hurried and got dinner in Greenwich Village and headed off to "Stomp" for our next theatre trip located across the street from NYU at the Orpheum Theatre. It was an interesting area, being a college area. Lots of young people foolin' around. But Stomp was to die for. 8 people using a unique combination of percussion, movement and visual comedy, which initially was created in England in 1991. The funny dude, (Brad Holland) we met on the Subway going home and he was sweet and humble and was glad we really loved the show. Wow, they were so talented. Especially one, asian girl named Yako Miyamoto. Boy could she move, and strong!!!
We got out at 11:00 at night and headed to the subway home, felt very safe. But, maybe the was a special protective bubble we were given by Heaven who knows. We just felt safe.

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Who is this?

So WHO is this????????? Our little Sophia Blake Naauilii Neves!!


So our first day walking the streets of New York were exciting to say the least!! First, we slept through a tornado that hit Brooklyn and ripped up many trees and destroyed some neighborhoods, and then there was 3 inches of rain dropped in just an hour. It was crazy to wake up to that!
So off we went, first order of things was to eat breakfast, so we walked along 5th Avenue and turned on about 51st and found a cute little cafe! We ordered what we thought would be a small breakfast, oatmeal, eggs and toast. It was humongous to say the least!! We could have shared it!! (So from then on we talked about sharing things. ) Needless to say, we were completely full for the entire day until dinner!! But it was delicious! The cafe was an Indian one!
Boy, were we excited to go to the Museum of Modern Art! MoMa is what it is called. Here is a picture of looking outside from the main level! Once inside we were enthralled with the art! The picture below and to the right is done by a Romanian, Dan Perjovschi "What happened to us?",who painted an entire wall to the ceiling consisting
of issues of the day, it was quite interesting to see his perspective concerning the American life at this time.
This is the painting we really wanted to see!! "A Starry Night" by Van Gogh!! Everyone was crowded around this one!! It was beautiful to see! Look at those colors, just spectacular!!This museum was truly a treat! We loved it immensely!
Okay, so now the THEATRE we so looked forward to and it was the show "WICKED!" Oh, oh,oh,oh,oh,oh,oh, what can I say? It was astonishing, astounding, superb and all that!!! So the cast is shown below with the exception of Galinda was played by an understudy, whom by the way, was everything we could have wanted!! YOU JUST HAVE TO SEE THIS! The rest of the day was spent seeing Rockefeller Center, going to Saks Fifth Avenue and dying at the prices and really seeing nothing that impressed us at all!! But it was a good experience.
We were very tired so after we ate at TGIFriday's we went looking around some more. We got home around 9:00 p.m. and ordered the movie "Music and Lyrics" and laughed at that and then fell asleep excited for the next day!!






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Wow, it's about time I learned this, huh??

So take a look at this!! I did it!!! Thanks Lara!! This is looking over to the Bronx and East River as we are on top of The Empire State Building!!! Tell you more in the next blog. This is a picture post learning blog!! Hee Hee.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

New York City, Here We Are!!

Wow!! Where has all this time gone???? Here it is August 14th and life is just whirling, whirling by and by!!! Well, I'm back, getting ready for the insanity of school and classes among my normal daily activities. It is amazing how we fill up our lives the older we get!! However, two dreams in the desiring and the planning have come to fruition this summer and they are 1) Church History trip with my darling husband, and 2) A New York City Trip with my darling daughter! I think I will write first about New York City because it is so fresh in my mind!! Then I'll go back and finish the Church History trip!!
(I still have to learn how to post pictures, that is the next order of business) New York City was glorious, so I will write about each day!!!

Tuesday, August 7th!

We both were so excited for this day. We left at 7:30 a.m. for the airport, leaving our car parked in long term. Off we went by shuttle to the terminal, checking in baggage at United, which now costs 2.00 per bag plus gratuity, but it sure beats standing in lines. Then up to security. Security was fast and quick this time with no events, thank goodness, have had a few, mind you. Then off to our gate to wait for the call. We had assigned seats for once and at 11:00 a.m. off we flew to New York via Chicago, Ohare airport.

We landed around 3:00 p.m. Chicago time, with a layover of a hour and a half. This layover turned into a 3 hour layover due to weather in New York City. This was a long one. But we walked all over the airport and then sat down to eat at Chili's. There was this one Jumbo Jet that was parked by us that was so fascinating, it was a double decker going to Israel and I really wanted to get on it and scout around!! Oh well.

Finally after changing gates three times, (You had to pay attention to the loud speaker because they were always changing it) we were finally getting on. Off we went to La Guardia in New York. Lara and I had much to talk about, so chatter was our name, I love that about us!! We can chatter and then we can be quiet, it is so great having a daughter like her, one who is understanding of others and always gives others the benefit of the doubt!! Everyone needs Lara for a friend, she can teach them so much about acceptance.

Well, finally we landed at La Guardia at 10:00 p.m. Picked up our luggage and then to the shuttle to our Hotel. I found the African Americans in the service jobs were so kind and FUNNY all of the time. At least for us!! We were so glad to see the night lights everywhere!! There was even a red heart on the Empire State Building. No, just kidding!!! But Times Square was brilliant as we went through a portion of it to our Hotel. Finally, we got off at the Port Authority and took a cab to the Hotel located about 10 blocks further! Then we were there!! Wow, were we happy to be finally there!! It was about 11:00 p.m. now and we were famished. No Hotel food was available without paying an arm and a leg, so we walked down the street a few blocks and found a Greek food vendor. We got some chicken, rice and zyros and took it back and ate and watched the news. Boy was that food HOT, I couldn't eat but a little bit, shoot, it taught me though, don't ask for a little hot sauce on it!!! Sleepy by time now, for tomorrow was our first day of exciting fun, sightseeing and THEATRE!!

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Dear Heavenly Father.......

Saying prayers with the girls was absolutely delightful!! I didn't know what they would say in their childlike way. Most of the time I would secretly be giggling because it was so darling and, of course, so pure!! Most of the time Chloe would say, " Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for this day, in the name............" and Bria's would be longer and much more elaborate. Sometimes Bria would say to Chloe, "You always say that, Chloe, say more!" But Chloe wouldn't. Then the second night, Chloe really said A LOT!! It was so surprising, but I was so happy to hear what she had to say. She would say, "bless that we will go to sleep, bless Bria's sunburn that it will be done, and bless mommy and daddy that they will be safe......." She went on and on and I LOVED it!!!

And when she was done she was very proud of herself that she had much more to pray for!!

From that time forward, Bria no longer would say, "Say more, Chloe!!" And we clapped and told her how wonderful she was, and how Heavenly Father loves hearing from her!

Out of the mouths of babes, my "grand" babes!

Monday, July 23, 2007

What a Gift!!

Wow, what a wonderful, exhausting, joyful week I've had. I can say that the little persons I was with this last week took my mind off myself, and my things so much that I was truly blessed with sweetness!! Those little persons are to be found in the form of 3 little girls and 2 little boys, my grandchildren!
Watching those children interact with one another was so fun, soooo funny!! Their conversations and their play was so fascinating in and of itself. We, me and the girls, especially loved being with Brayden, Daxton and their mommy in this wonderful pool on a hot summer day, romping, going down slides and doing many somersaults! Constantly asking me to "Watch, Mamah, watch, Gramma!!" They are so much fun to watch!! All I could do is smile, smile, smile and say "Good Job!!" I just love them so much!
What was especially fun for me was the cuddling and laying down with Sophia and chattering with her or talking to Bria or Chloe about so many things, especially at the end of the day in their bed after scriptures and prayers. Chloe's prayers got quite long, she had just as much to pray for as Bria.
Uncle Nate was able to come over one time for lunch and play with them, especially Chloe, who adores him, more than anyone I think! She gets quite giddy when he is around. They have a special connection. Bria is so loving and giving she easily goes over to him and wraps her arms around his big body and just hugs him and says "I love you, Uncle Nate!" Sophia looks at him very carefully and then decides he's okay and let's him hold her for a moment. I just love watching that too!
So today when they left with Lara and Joel, I cried. I felt just like Bria and Brayden when we leave them. I miss those little kids already. Being with them brought back many memories of all the structure we had, the fun times and of course the spiritual times we had together. Not to mention the hard work of raising children. However, there is no greater joy in this life than children.
There is so much to say here, but what I really have to say is thank you Lara and Joel for giving me this opportunity to be with them and to lift my soul. Thank you Shana for the sweet fun we had in the pool with the children, and thank you kids, for being my "Grand" children.

Monday, July 16, 2007

What More Could I Want???

I'm back!!!! This blog is an addition to my last one because as I laid in bed this morning I was in deep thought about yesterday's meeting and can't get it off my mind.

Since my husband has been called to the Bishopric, many times he comes home and shares wonderful, testimony strengthening things. I love it!!! Now mind you, nothing confidential, so don't be worrying about that. In fact, I don't know anything that is going on in the ward, other than my own information. But I hear and marvel over many things as they are taught in many, many leadership meetings that he can share that brings me such great joy!! The Lord is at the head of this church and as the church quietly goes about His business through his people, many miracles are happening. One such comment is that the Brethren are "quite aware of our ward, the leadership and the great missionary spirit this ward has, they know of and are watching and pulling many to serve!" I remember when Elder Oaks would come to our ward quite frequently, and this was the time when our children were serving their missions, and he would take our program which had the names of our missionaries and their addresses on the back and keep it with him to show what can be done to other wards and stakes he would visit. At the time we had 42 missionaries out and we had two out ourselves at the time. You just don't know what your potential can be, or you just don't know of the power of example until you hear something like that. And now, it's their parents who are going out and making a difference. At this point we have 10 couples out and more coming up!! I can not even explain the feeling I have for this spirit of service. We have been so blessed to be in this spot! To be born in a free land, to live in such a choice place, near the headquarters of the Church, and to be a member of the Church. All of those things are blessings and privileges that not many have, what did I do to deserve this?

To be quite honest I feel, that He is refining both of us, preparing us for great service that is to come, through many trials and experiences. However, that is if we do our part and prove ourselves worthy. In fact, I have watched terrific growth in my husband! It is quite noticeable and I am very proud of him and the beautiful ways he is allowing himself to be molded by our Father in Heaven.

Now look, how sidetracked I got. But getting back to yesterday's meeting. I was privileged along with Janet Hatch and Cheri Ringger to sing "Oh, That I Were An Angel" in the meeting. I felt like we were accompanied by many angels. I can testify, it was so. But this is not all!!! Elder Russ Osguthorpe, an Area Authority was there. Russ was our neighbor, two doors down for over 20 years, whose children were raised with our children!!! I LOVE Russ and Lolly!! And they were there for Gerri and Ralph. What wonderful friends we have in them. Anyhow, Russ spoke after Ralph and solidified the feelings of the meeting. He spoke of the missionary spirit and the experiences of our ward. He said that oftentimes when the children come home they sit and talk of many experiences that they had here and about many of us!! I know we are in there because we had many HILARIOUS experiences together for 20 years!! Lolly and I still laugh at some of the things that happened that we as mothers did not know happened!!! It was an incredible meeting and reunion with so many who have left the ward now! I just know that is what heaven will be like! Thank you, thank you, thank you for these experiences!!! Again, the Lord knows what he is doing to prepare us for more. I can see the wisdom in putting those who are seasoned into callings that lead His Church!

The most significant thing in my life is to be a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. The most significant people in my life are : My Savior, my family and my friends. What more could I want???? In Gerri's talk, she read what President Hinckley's wrote in the call, that more blessings were to come in their service, and as I look at the clock right now, Elder and Sister Larson are walking in the door right now to the MTC!!! What great things await them!!

What more could I want?????

Sunday, July 15, 2007

A Deep Desire!

This is a short 5 minute blog, that I'm fitting in in exactly that as I have to go VTeaching. I just had to share a little about our Sacrament Meeting today with a couple missionary and a young Elder missionary going out and the great feelings of the Spirit that was felt there today, the holiness, the sacredness of talking about serving others and going and finding those elect that are being prepared. Gerri and Ralph have such depth and love, yes, I'm prejudice, she has been my walking partner for about 5 years and I know her very well and she me!! Her talk was funny, was uplifting and inspiring all at the same time. Her love of others will come through to those who come in contact with her in Finland.

Ralph said there was two places that he loved the most in his life to be and that was, Finland and in the hearts of those he loves. That truly touched me deeply. I can relate to that, I have always wanted to be in the hearts of those I love and I suppose the other place is in the Temple. It is absolutely wonderful how with age comes wisdom and comes only the things that really matter. You recognize it because those things have come and gone now and you long for those days again, but with more depth and caring as ever before.

If I could say one thing to all of you, is that my heart has always been soft, it has always been open, whether or not I have said things awkwardly or hurtfully, I can tell you with sincere honesty that I never ever wanted to hurt, to put down, or to intentionally make things harder for another. Everything, even some hard things have only been about doing it for a better or higher reason or out of a deep love.

What I desire is to be in the hearts of my friends and loved ones forever.

Sunday, July 8, 2007

Stay tuned for more results!!

It is amazing how time just flies by, here it is two weeks later from my last post, but, well, here I am. And I am lucky TO BE here!! I'm not complaining but rather bringing to light some things I've discovered in the last year to maybe help others out there. First of all, I am in the big M word which can stand for a lot of things, like monster, malady, mucho mugly, magnificient or whatever, but it really stands for Men-o-pause. What it really stands for is all Men, you are, well, paused for a while because I am someone I'm NOT!!!! I'm not mean, or cranky or impatient, BUT I am fatigued to the max all day long, I had trouble sleeping, hot flashes, a little weight gain, you know the usual. But here is the deal! I got with these great Dr's who are very knowledgeable and all they do is balance hormones, for men and women! They took a blood test or this Full Women's Panel. (One you ask your doctor to order so insurance will pay and then have these gals read it.) They are amazing. They can tell you how much of each hormone you are producing and how much you should be and I'll tell you right now, for me, it was zero, zilch, othing, nada!!! But, they had me taking some things that match for me and I immediately quit the hot flashes and I'm sleeping. Do you know what sleep is worth????? So those two things are going quite well. BUTTTTT, there are still some issues which are not easily corrected and it is making me crazy. However, when I come out of there after reading a 3rd blood test, I am NOT Crazy it is all the endocrine system. Sheesh!

My adrenals are shot, I have no ovaries and my thyroid is not working. So there is that triad of health and they are all equally important, and NONE of them are working! So no wonder I feel "sideways low"!!!!!! Like crap!! BUT, we are working to find the answers and to me that is worth a million bucks, because eventually we will find it. So now, I'm on a different thyroid, it is called Armour, I am taking bi-est twice a day instead of once and I'm taking an adrenal pak full of vitamins and minerals that I desperately need. Plus a drug called cortef. But I'm still debating that one. I am now insulin resistant and It is because of hormones out of wack, Got Gotta gotta figure this out NOW. But in the meantime, I am not crazy, and I will lay down in the afternoons as a necessity not a luxury!!! Do you hear that all you girls? Laying down is not a luxury it is a necessity!!
Anyhow, I'll be taking another blood test in 4 weeks to see if my body is assimilating anything and I'll let you know. But, for now......

Guess I'll go lay down now!! I'm exhausted from writing this! LOL, More later!

Sunday, June 24, 2007

The Beginnings.....

Well, hello everyone!!! Whoever is out there reading this, which, much to my chagrin are probably a select few. BUT those few are very dear to me, that's all I can say!!! Anyhow, we are back!! And what a trip this was. I can't even begin to put the proper words here to explain the magnificence, the beauty, the sweetness and the Spirit of this Church History Site trip. First of all we went on our own. We began in the cradle of the restoration. Palmyra. This place felt really sacred. The Sacred Grove was my favorite spot, it gave me a feeling of peace, or longing for home, of knowledge that Joseph did indeed see God, the Father and the Son, Jesus Christ. It was indescribable. We stayed in the grove for at least an hour, talking of the things that happened here, also of Jon's experience in that Mission. Also, of the great testimony Jon has of that place. It was very sweet there and I felt and received some very special things there. The Temple is built directly east of the Sacred Grove, right next to the Joseph Smith Farm. and Wow, what a sight. Joseph, I'm sure, saw that Temple there and was assured in every way of what was to come in that special place. The Temple inside was so special. Every window has the sacred grove in stained glass. The man who was commissioned to do the windows asked if he could do all the windows in the sacred grove and Pres. Hinckley said it could not go over budget but if hw got a donor, then he could do it. He got a donor. This temple is a small one, but so gorgeous inside. I really wanted to stay in that part of the vineyard longer. I'm sorry I'll be back tomorrow, I'm starting to crash and burn, been up since 2:30 a.m. this morning traveling. Sooo.......

Friday, June 15, 2007

Smart Marriages.com

I've been reading quite a lot of articles on marriage as of late as Nate put me on to a website he was given in school that is really helpful. It's called www.smartmarriages.com. Every day they send out articles to read and ponder concerning marriage, especially in today's world. It is all about teaching couples how to increase the behaviors that predict success and extinquish the behaviors that predict failure. I write this, because of pondering a statement, that endurance to the end is false and if your marriage is based on that then get out now. Well, since hearing that therre have been articles stating quite the opposite and I'm so glad I read them. I have been married now for 35 years. And I can tell you firsthand, successful marriages takes lots of hard work, takes time, and it takes encouragement of this very sacred endeavor.
(Now, those of you who are reading this, if you think for one minute this is directed towards anyone, then you must be feeling guilty, so my advice, don't!! Because this is facts and truth being presented and much of it I have been contemplating as to the comment I overheard up above.)
Marriage is in trouble, among all groups of Americans. The divorce rate is down slightly-about 1/3rd of all first marriages will end in divorce after 10 years of marriage-but it's not time to pop the champagne bottles. Marriage rates are down even more sharply. Fewer Americans are marrying today than anytime in the past, and cohabitation is on a sharp increase. If you look at the factors that predict who will marry and who will divorce, then Mike and I didn't have a very good chance. I was 19 and he was 21 when we got married. Basically still teenagers, whose divorce rates are sky-high (nearly half of all teenage brides divorce within 10 years). His father was a construction man and my father a Pharmeceutical Rep and enterpreneur. His family was always struggling to make it through the week on their paycheck and lived in the hard, rough areas of L.A. and mine was in the middle class, living in beautiful La Jolla. We both went to college, but after marriage I went to work and he kept going and then Lara came along.
So according to the statistics just those few mentioned issues cause a lot of problems. So why are we still here? I'll tell you right now, by refusing to give up on the relationship, when when thing were tough. And I'm not saying, that we didn't feel like it, because at times we did. But I must say, EVERY marriage goes through patchy periods. Ups and Downs. EVERY ONE!!!
I remember one of our Church leaders saying, if someone says they don't disagree, then they are either not talking or they are dead!! I had to laugh, because it is important to keep perspective. But then we have 4 kids. They said that if you have kids, we owe it to them to do everything in your power to work it out. (of course, physical abuse, drug addition or severe alcohol abuse can't be tolerated. but most marriages that end in divorce don't do so because of these factors.)
Marriage is one of the most effective anti-poverty programs there is. But according to this article promoting marriage is an uphill battle today. Especially in a disposable society.
Don't like washing dishes or diapers? Replace them with paper, which can be thrown away. Last year's car isn't as shiny or cutting edge as the new ones? Trade it in. Debt here we come. The wife is getting a little fat or the hubby is losing his hair? There's always someone younger, better looking or more successful out there.
In the past there was social stigma attached to divorce. Now, the pressure on married couples is not to settle for anything less than perfect spouses and uninterrupted bliss. Marriage isn't like that. It's hard work.
Traditional marriages vows recognized this. Spouses pledged to honor each other in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, until death. The Catholic Church still used this pledge.
But the trend today is to write hip, even funny, vows, which aren't really vows at all, like these suggested on a popular wedding Web site: "I promise to always make your favorite banana milkshake," Or "I promise to split the difference on the thermostat, as Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston did when they married. And look how long that union lasted.
Marriage is a serious-dare I say, sacred-endeavor, It is also the foundation of our society. If children are to thrive, we must do more to encourage and celebrate marriage. I'll be doing my share this week.

Thursday, June 14, 2007

Walking and Talking!!!

I have a dear, dear friend that I have walking with three times a week for years, and have been friends with, served with in Young Women for years, gone to lunch with often and shared many deep thoughts and feelings with for years! She has a deep love for others and an understanding of human nature like no one I know. She has wonderful qualities as a person. She always can see the eternal perspective! She thinks she has many weaknesses, she makes fun of herself, and she has down days like we all do! But the one thing I have to say is, I am going to miss her so much for the next two years. She and her husband are leaving on July 16th for a mission to the Helsinki, Finland Temple mission. I have literally gone through the whole process with her, listening to all the details since the day they even thought they wanted to go on a mission. And now they are only a couple of weeks away. Today we went and bought three pairs of shoes for her and she got fitted for the first time for a proper brassiere! That alone was a good thing. We had a great time. Last week we found two beautiful Temple outfits for her that will wash and wear the entire two years and still look new. We were so excited about her find at White Elegance.
I told her today, I'm going to miss her so much I might get depressed. Who will I chatter with and share all the things we are learning in our classes or Institute? Who will I get to listen to and feel a connection with like her??? She laughed. But I really will miss her. She has made my life more meaningful and rich. I look forward to when I'll receive her emails and letters of this mission. The one they have been so looking forward to for quite some time. And then,again I will be enriched and inspired. Then they will come home for a while and then go again. And this time maybe Mike and I will be ready to go. Thank goodness, we have a few years to correct, to grow, to lift, to change and all those things that will prepare us for the one thing I feel I owe the Lord in no uncertain terms. And that is to share His gospel to whomever He thinks I can.
So, Gerri, I have many wonderful friends, but YOU hold an extremely special and important place in my life. Many Many blessings to you and Ralph.

Sunday, June 10, 2007

Influential people!

I was listening to a talk given by Sister Susan Tanner, General YW President and one thing struck me that she said today. There are 3 people who are hugely influential on our Young Women today other than their parents. Can you guess what three they are????????
1) Older Sibling.
2) Grandmothers.
3) Young Women Leaders.

I would say that is ABSOLUTELY the truth!!!

Palmyra to the City Beautiful!

Wow, one more week and we take off for Rochester, New York to begin our Church History route on Saturday. Just Mike and I!! Doesn't that sound intriguing? We've been planning on this for quite sometime and the time is nearing. I have been working on our itinerary for a while today and looking more thoroughly at the historic sites and the travel time,the weather, the reservations needed or not needed. We will fly into Rochester and go directly to our hotel, then off we go to check out some sites for awhile before dark. Sunday will be church and sites. Monday we will be going to a Temple session at the Palmyra Temple, absolutely gorgeous!! Then over to Niagra Falls for a Maid of the Mist Boat ride. Then we plan to drive over to Painesville, Ohio right outside of Kirtland. Kirtland has many interesting sites there where much of Church History occurred. We plan on two days there, inasmuch, as there is much to see all over the place. Then we are driving into Cleveland and staying the night and hopping a plane to St. Louis. As soon as we get to St. Louis we are driving up to Keokuk and staying the night, but before we drop our heads we will go over to Carthage Jail. Then on the 22nd and 23rd it is Nauvoo, the City Beautiful. Taking in a Temple session at the beautiful Nauvoo Temple and the many shows and homes there. Fred and MaryJane Fuller are missionaries there and we are staying with them. The time will just fly by and then off to St. Louis again only to fly home early Sunday morning. All I can say is this is thrilling to have such an opportunity to see up close and personal all that we read about in the Doctrine and Covenants and study in Church History classes in Institute.
I think I'll go to bed now, I'm already tired, but oh so grateful for this trip to finally come to fruition!!

Friday, June 8, 2007

Fire at UPS!!

Yesterday, June 7th was definitely an eventful day! The one event that stood out of a prayer being answered regularly was Mike's UPS truck catching fire and burning to the ground and NOONE was hurt! I guess that sounds like an exaggeration but you must see the pictures of it!
Mike and his loader had just finished loading the truck at about 8:00 a.m. in the morning, ready to go and deliver. It also had been gassed up the day before, so it did have a full tank of gas in it as well. And as always, his truck is crammed from top to bottom.
Just as Mike had left and was walking away as was his loader, a loader from the car next to his, screamed "FIRE!" Now, realize that these trucks are tightly parked right next to each other, just inches in fact, because a loader loads about 2-3 trucks at a time in the morning.
As she screamed fire this package she saw in the Mikes' truck ignited or flashed, burned her a little, and then the entire truck went up in seconds. Everyone in the center went crazy and started to yell get out, but there was Mike walking around his truck taking pictures!! He got some incredible pictures on his cell phone, I'll see if I can learn to put on pictures. Anyhow, it was an inferno, destroyed Mikes truck, the roof caved, the windows blew, the sides all burned out and the load itself was now ashes. The two trucks beside his was destroyed as well, but fortunately the loads inside were not damaged.
Needless to say, all drivers were held outdoors until the fire department cleared the area, so everyone was out late delivering and Mike and two other drivers had no truck, so they had to find them trucks. The funny thing is Mike had just said to the supervisors "What do I have to do to get a new truck?" just last week. Oh boy, what a way to get one.
The moral of the story is, that really he was SO protected, that all around that center was protected, no one was harmed, and so little was lost. It could have been a huge disaster as those trucks are filled with hazmat! Thankyou Heavenly Father for my husband's protection. I'm not ready to give him up!! I am so grateful to still have him!!! I love him.

Happy Birthday to You!!

So I guess I'm on a kick of writing about the little special things that happen during the day that have to do with one or more of my grandchildren that I notice. Yesterday was a very special birthday of my favorite grandson #1, Brayden Michael Preston!!!! He turned 6 years old, ALREADY! But what a special, incredible kid he is. Last week Jon brought the boys over here to celebrate his birthday with us, his cousins, aunt and uncle! It was so fun! Those kids love to play and run and chatter together! It is a wonderful sight to watch them play. I love that Brayden will call and want to come over when the girls are here! The girls adore those boys and always ask if they are coming over again and again.
I called Shana's cell, they were busy, so the voicemail picked up and I sang away a Happy Birthday song to that sweetie, but by the end of the day, while I was in class Brayden called and left a cute message with his precious little voice!! I just love him so much. AND I am so grateful that he is my grandson!! What can I say???? I have the bestest grandchildren in the world!!!!

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

Hard to say Good-bye!!

SO today was a very hard day for me in that when I came home from class, I didn't have any little footsteps running and calling "Mamah, mamah!!" Look at this, or watch or come here!!! So it was very quiet, except for Daisy greeting me, for which I am very grateful for! So now it is going back to being quiet, going about my business, doing my thing etc. etc! Those kids make me feel so happy, they make me smile in what they spend their time doing all day. I found a multitude of things around that reminded me of them immediately. First they left me, dad and Nate letters, thanking us for being here, then I found all these drawings of princesses and sunshines and little girls!! Then I found a few things they left, a piggy bank, a box, a book of Mormon, and few stuffed animals. So when I see them I think of them. It is really withdrawal to say the least! They, meaning, all my grandchildren are tender mercies of the Lord, no doubt. I really understand my mother and how she felt with my children. How much she loved them, worried about them and felt so connected to them.
I am so grateful for the opportunity to be with them and be a part of their lives. They are so welcoming and so want to be with us here. And I love the kisses I get all of the time from adorable little faces.
So, Lara, the messes, well they were nothing compared to that. The messes can be cleaned up!
I love you, Mom

Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Something amazing!

I just LOVE all my grandchildren!! They are the most wonderful little people in the world! The Lord has shown me tender mercies of love amidst some difficult things. I just have to say this!

Monday, May 21, 2007

The voices of my grandchildren!

One of my most favorite happenings in the world, is getting a phone call and on the other end is a little voice saying "Hi, Mamah" or "Hi, Grandma Deni"!!! I found out from Lara the other day that Chloe now knows which number I am on speed dial, and she just calls now whenever she wants to. She'll chatter and tell me all that she is doing right then and there and then say Bye Mamah! When I call, Lara has a certain ring for me and Bria will pick up and "Hi Mamah!" And talk to me about her life! Even Sophia has played with the phone and has dialed me and I can hear her. And cute Brayden will call and say "What ya doin?" and then tell me what he is doing or leave a message if I don't answer! Just precious. Or Tychon will call and say thank you for the present and tell me how he is playing with his friend in great detail!
This to me is sublime. I don't think parents even realize how that small simple act brightens the day of us older folks who miss the sounds of children so much.
I hope that they will always take that time to do that small thing to make someone's life, mine, happy!!

Saturday, May 19, 2007

This is life!

Well, I'm back from the dead! This week has been full, full of ups and downs. Of life, of death, of work, of rest, of everything! But, I can say honestly, mostly ups! I notice when there is a hard thing there is always a joyous wonderful thing. I think Heavenly Father allows that so we won't be totally devastated in life. He is a very merciful God, and yet, at the same time, one who is teaching us, preparing us for our forever life!

In relationships, I truly believe that people don't do things to intentionally hurt. I believe things are a matter of thoughtlessness. Or, they react when hurt. Don't you? The key is in the discipline and in the humility to be taught when being shown or corrected.

In work, there again, discipline, but then there are those things.... However, we are always trying to control. We don't like being out of control. If we are then fear sets in. Fear causes reaction. It's a cycle, don't you think?

How about weight-loss? Need I say more? An important aspect of weight loss is the fact of health, healthy mind, body and spirit. One that is in control. Mastering, so to speak the passions of the taste buds. Oftentimes, we just view it in terms of how we look instead of how we feel. Yeah, I look okay, but I want to feel light, and energetic and full of joy! Extra weight, even this 5 pounds makes me feel sluggish, heavy, and a little lack luster.
Also, there are those that I come in contact with that plain, don't want to do it. They don't see results quick enough, or they don't "want" to be told by another, including Drs. or whatever the reason. But the reality is, what about those that love them? We ought to be thinking of them and working on our best self to provide for them a long life and a healthy happy one at that.

So I guess you see where this babbling blog went, to the weight loss mystery. So find what motivates you and go for it. Stop making excuses. Once you stop making excuses there is nothing standing in your way.

Now, the most wonderful "up" of the whole week, was my wonderful children remembering me on Mother's Day. My grandchildren, namely Bria, Chloe, Sophia, Brayden and Daxton as they sent me wonderful gifts with personalized hand writing! What sweetness, that I will keep forever. (I look at those things frequently, I've kept most things by the way!) Thanks to their parents for teaching them to "remember".
I love them with all my heart. All of my precious grandchildren.! See the joy amidst the hard. That is IT.
Them!