"Generally speaking, the most miserable people I know are those who are obsessed with themselves; the happiest people I know are those who lose themselves in the service of others. By and large, I have come to see that if we complain about life, it is because we are thinking only of ourselves." *Gordon B Hinckley
So if I'm really sad, must be I'm too into myself!
Holidays and depression! I guess I can really understand why so many people feel bad at this time of year. The doctors say it is a sense of LOSS. That loss can be anything such as, Holidays reminding us of what we are missing out on, or, longing for the company of those we miss, or loss of a dream whether it is trivial or profound. Things like that.
They say it is a disparity between reality and our expectations that defines the depth of our sadness. Our expectations are high, and our reality is far from it on the other side of it. So it becomes a serious letdown. This is really true in just about any time of life or time of year.
It seems movies give us this sense of fantasy and that our dreams are too often mere fantasy, and our wishes could never come true. I think this may be true.
So what do we do?
Stop setting expectations so high, so you'll avoid disappointment. Boy is that the truth. I think I may do this sometimes.
Adjust your hopes and dreams to a realistic level, then they have a chance of coming true.
Adjust your expectations in your relatives who may come to visit, let's face it, we all have some kooky relatives in our families and what we should do is just love them.
So, do you have an unrealistic sense, I suspect we all do to some degree. Let's just enjoy the reason for the season I guess, and that is the birth of our Savior who has laid down his life for everything we have done incorrectly, our poor judgement, our transgressions, and our sins. And remember that imperfection is a reality.
I truly wish I was as techy as my kids are with postings and pictures, and, well, just about everything in this tech world! BUT I'm not. I should try to find a picture to enahnce this post but, Oh well, such as it is, I just want to post a wonderful experience Mike and I had tonight.
Going to the Temple.
Especially at this time of year! We both are so so busy with school and the Brown Santa Claus that we usually don't have the time nor the energy to do one more thing. But this year we want to make sure we go. So we made the decision at 5:30 p.m. to go and off we went by 6:15 p.m. And it was glorious!
The sweet, clean smell of the air surrounding the Temple, next to that gorgeous mountain was so blissful. Walking UP the walkway, up to the mountain, was so symbolic. The seeing of many faithful people, young and old, going and being replenished, recharged and rejuvenated for the "living in the world", was so appreciated. But the most wonderful feeling always comes from being inside, away from the world, and in the warmth of love of a familiar feeling, and that is the loving arms of Father in Heaven and His Son. I feel their presence and I always learn so much, especially when we do sealings. Tonight it was sealings again, of 12 names from my Dad's side of the family.
Mike and I always leave feeling kinder, more helpful, more loving than when we entered and for that I keep making a promise to myself and to each other, we must go there more often than we do. It changes you. Changes us for the better.
So, as we left, I said to Mike, "the adversary does not want us here to find out the truth. And the truth is, this gospel is TRUE and every promise and covenant in it is true! And each time we go, these truths get in us more and give us the strength to deal with the adversary!"
I Love the Temple, it changes me! And I feel great gratitude for it!
Boy oh boy, we are getting those tax cuts for another two years, child tax credit, and estate tax. Thank goodness! The economists are speaking out with a positive view of the next two years! For once!! But Obama looked defeated. But he had no choice he HAD to listen to the voice of the majority. Obama has been behaving like a spoiled child! Stomping around until he would get his way until the people would give into his whims! Feeling sorry for himself when he didn't get what he wanted and then intimidating those who didn't agree with him and his cronies until again they gave in to his whims and demands! Looking all dejected and behaving so so childish. What do we have at the helm? It is scary AND unbelieveable to see THe immaturity running this country.
I'm so grateful the people went out and voted and were heard! Seriously, we had to put our foot down and get involved. Because raising taxes would have surely killed us all next year with a certainty, especially our children and their families. I have lived through this type of immaturity before, the Carter years actually, and our family along with many suffered for a very long time, and it wasn't until just within the last 5 years we have recovered from that bout in the early 1980's.
But we are part of the problem, if we allow this to happen, and I say allow, they will always get their way. So both ends need to change. It looks like the days of the Book of Mormon when the Nephites were completely destroyed because they allowed the gadiantion thinking, they turned their heads and did nothing.
This is from Meridian Magazine---December 7, 2010! ENJOY!!
We have a lake near our home where we love to walk in the mornings. One day I was headed out the door alone to go the lake when my daughter asked, “Who will you talk to while you walk? Won’t you be lonely?” “Oh, no,” I answered, “I’ll just talk to myself.”
The truth is I couldn’t help but talk to myself. You talk to yourself all day long, an endless monologue, a jabbering that doesn’t stop. You open your eyes in the morning and the talk begins. You brush your teeth, you eat breakfast—the complete routine of the day—is all accompanied by this voice in your head.
If someone were to ask you, what mortal has had the greatest influence on your life, you would have to honestly answer that you have, by what you’ve told yourself all day, every day. You have been your teacher, your mentor.
You have been the one who cast judgments on all that you’ve seen. You have interpreted what reality is. You have written the story of your life in this personal soliloquy. You have built an entire sense of what the world is like.
The critical question for you is this: Have you been a good teacher? Have you seen clearly?
You would never want to sit in the classroom of a teacher, even if he were very noted at a prestigious university, if he taught you inaccuracies, if the window he shone upon the world were skewed or distorted. Under his influence, you would not want to learn to look through a glass darkly.
The truth is you trust the monologue in your head even more than the noted professor. Most of us are quite certain that the way we perceive things is the way they truly are. You’ve reinforced your view of reality not once, but over and over, until you are convinced that your interpretation of things is right. You are the trusted lens on yourself and on your life. Your attitudes and outlook are the rightful consequence of having seen things clearly.
Or so you think. But is it?
Stephen R. Covey uses the analogy of a map of reality to answer that question. Since your first breath, you have been creating a map of reality and your response to it. With limited perception and understanding, however, you—and all of us—got some things somewhat right and some things wrong. You have been using that map for years to maintain perspective and a sense of direction. You have expanded it over time and altered some parts when they have been found to be wanting. Some whole regions of the map may have come to seem completely inadequate.
However if reality, as God sees it, is, for example, a map of Chicago, and you are trying to find your way with a map of Denver, you will continually run into dead ends and blind alleys. Something just doesn’t match up. This map of Denver, which you hold such faith in, seems to lead you into continual frustration.
In those areas where you hold incorrect ideas, false paradigms, or misunderstandings and carry them through life, you will be about as effective as if you were carrying the wrong map of a city. Frustration and pain is inevitable. As fervently as you believe in your map, as desperately as you cling to it and try until you are breathless to get to where you want to go, you will only end up bitterly disappointed.
Call a taxi. Rent a different car. Spin your wheels faster—your destination will still not be reached, because it was never just about how hard you tried, but about the nature of your inner map.
It is so easy to see false ideas at work in others. A friend of mine believes that she can’t succeed at some things that are important to her. She has mounds of evidence to prove it. Since she left the confines of the crib, she has been hard at work interpreting her experience to demonstrate that she is a failure who can’t accomplish what she hopes. Because she is so convinced of this, each experience adds to her story. “See, I couldn’t do that either.” “I knew this wouldn’t work out.” “It’s just like I thought, I blew it again.”
As you repeat certain ideas to yourself, you inject them into your experience. In fact, quietly, but surely, you shape our own experience to reflect what you believe. It is the picture you are painting of the world stroke by stroke. It is your life’s history you are writing, line by line. Given a chance for success, my friend sabotages herself, though quite unaware she is doing it, but the filter through which she sees the world is so strong that she shapes each experience to further solidify it. She is talented and able and the last to see it.
She may start a new project, but somewhere inside she is convinced that she will fall short, that she will trip before the finish line, that things will not come together for her. What she does not see, is that she has been the author of this idea, has created her experience to be a self-fulfilling prophecy of a false belief.
Sadly, her viewpoint on her worth and abilities becomes more solidified over time. She has created more evidence for it, every time she steps back from success, convinced she is unable and unworthy. Her evidence of her inability to find a sense of potency and happiness is not just a hill, but a Himalayan mountain, impossible in her mind to scale, and she does not know that she made that mountain herself.
The false ideas of others, especially the others we are close to, become evident to us, because we
see how they trip on them. We watch them falter and we want to leap in and say, “If you could just abandon this idea, this pocked and distorted glass through which you view the world, everything would change.” We want to say, “You are hurting yourself by the things you believe that are false. Your lens on the world and on yourself is skewed; it is hurting you.” It is clear that ideas are powerful; they are the invisible but sculpting tools of our souls and our life’s experience.
We can see those around us who have interpreted life resentfully, those who have had false expectations about what they thought they deserved. We grieve for those who have talked themselves out of a relationship with a loving God by the distortion of their thoughts. We can tell that the perpetually unhappy are caught in a web of misperceptions, that what they say when they talk to themselves is much of the problem.
What is much harder is to see the lies and falseness in our own thinking because we are under the illusion that what we see is the truth. We see what is. We, in fact, share a viewpoint with God. His may be much more expanded, but at least for what we see, we got it right.
In scripture we are taught that the “truth shall make you free” (John 8:32).
What we also know, however is that its reverse is also true. A lie, a misperception, a false assumption that leads to a faulty outlook shall bind us. In the area of our understanding where the falseness operates, it may be an utter and complete bondage that keeps us feeling stuck for reasons we do not see.
When we are taught that the “truth shall make you free,” we may believe that this refers to gospel truths only, however, since truth is “things as they really are, and…things as they really will be”, it is evident that our ability to be free—that is empowered with joy, light, love and intelligence in every area, including our relationship with ourselves and others—depends on our being loosed from the bondage of bad ideas. This includes our assumptions that are silent and therefore invisible to us (Jacob 4:13).
We believe all sorts of things, take them as underlying foundation stones to our outlook that we don’t even know we’ve embraced. How do we come to know what our silent assumptions are? Events may open our eyes to our underlying assumptions. Our differences with others sometimes make them clearer.
Life is designed to reveal ourselves to ourselves. What happens to us in this mortal journey shows us where in our thinking and understanding we have it wrong.
It is one of the Lord’s kindest gifts to us. We do not want to be hampered in our journeying, dragging heavy baggage and burdens that are frustrating and painful because we couldn’t see where to put them down.
How do you recognize where your own ideas are faulty? How do you come to see where you have misunderstood the nature of reality? How do your own mental distortions or misunderstandings become clear to you?
Here is a key. If it is the truth that makes you free, then you can tell where you are in bondage to lies, to the wrong coloring of reality, to emphasizing one thing to the detriment of others that are more important, because in those areas you feel less free. You can tell if you have perceived yourself unfairly or unwisely or in a diminished and contracted way because you feel imprisoned.
Bondage signifies itself in your soul as unhappiness or frustration or a sense of being stuck. Something isn’t working, no matter how hard you try. If in any area of your life you are in a box, and can’t find your way out, it is because you are hemmed in by a faulty thought pattern.
Misery is an invitation to step back consciously and examine your own thought patterns—both what you say when you talk to yourself and the underlying worldview you have created from which they spring. Misery or dejection or even a slight sense of dimness suggests that you have to pay attention to the way you look at things. Certainly a ruptured relationship offers the same invitation.
My husband, Scot, and I have developed a technique between us for helping the other when either of us is dispirited. One of us says to the other who is in the slumps or is anxious or fearful, “What are you believing right now that isn’t true? What thought pattern have you followed that has got you so stuck?”
The answer to that question is not always clear immediately. Finding our faulty thinking may take discussion or journal writing. I have written pages some times asking what I am thinking that isn’t true, isn’t an actual reflection of the way things really are. On paper I have asked myself: What do I believe in some particular area? Why do I think that? What evidence have I mounted to think that? Is there something skewed or inaccurate in that pattern of thinking? Where does that thinking lead me? Does it bring me joy? Does it empower me? If the truth makes me free, does this thought pattern make me feel spiritually enlightened or dimmed? Is there a truer way to understand this?
Am I in a box in my thinking? Have I created of my mind a terrarium with its own atmosphere that doesn’t acknowledge its limitations?
Rooting out the muddles in our thinking foremost requires prayer, for ultimately, it is our loving Lord, from whom all light springs. He sees things as they really are. That light that springs forth from his bosom which fills the immensity of space is truth. He invites us with open arms into his embrace to see better and ultimately to see wholly.
He has told us, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways…for as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts” (Isaiah 55: 8,9).
The spiritual life is a progressive journey to have His Spirit expand and correct our very thoughts, not only about the grand things of eternity but about
how we perceive the smallest details, which are in themselves tell-tale to how we’ve told our story to ourselves.
Joseph Smith said “that the nearer man approaches perfection, the clearer are his views”[i] Of course, then, that it should be no surprise that our life’s experience would reveal our flawed thinking in ways we would surely notice.
During Christ’s ministry, in many instances he healed the blind. In one instance described by John, he saw a man at the temple who somewhat like the rest of us “was blind from his birth”. Ours is a blindness in our thinking, his was physical. After Christ healed him and he was hauled before the Pharisees who wanted an explanation, he answered simply, “Whereas I was blind, now I see.”
When we are stuck or miserable or nothing works, we might first take note of what we are saying to ourselves in the incessant monologue in our heads and whether it is the light of truth or laced with little lies, even lies we have not yet caught on to. God always invites us to see better and to show us the way to do just that.
I read this this morning in my personal study in my Meridian magazine, which I love! I always feel renewed, uplifted, and fed. I know I have some of these thought patterns to write an untrue story of myself. Yet, I know too, that Jesus is the Christ, and is my Redeemer who gave his life for me and my weaknesses, sins, mistakes etc. So why does it take me so long to get it? Because it is always a pattern we have to overcome, or faulty thinking we have to practice getting over. This always take time. But one thing is certain, time always teaches better, and always heals. I LOVE this article!!
This tree brings me great "Joy"! It is just so beautiful to me and to look at it reminds me of what my Heavenly Father has really blessed me with! How lucky I am to be here now at this time with the people I am on the journey with! I hope you can see all the little details that shimmer and shine!
So much to be thankful for! Look at those cute faces!! I love each and every one of them. I'm so thankful for my membership in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, Thankful for my dear family, each and every one, from children, to inlaws, to grandchildren!! Thankful for my job, thankful for many opportunities to serve, thankful for my health (the good and the bad, currently a migraine, ugh!) Thankful for wonderful extended family, thankful for a beautiful home, for a sweetheart dog, for fantastic friends who are very loyal to me. Thankful for this country in which we live, and for freedom! And this is a very short list. Thank you for my life!
Probably this is the busiest time of the year for me and it gets difficult to see my way through the mountains of paperwork for my seven sections and two classes at BYU. Not to mention preparing for a new semester, hiring new instructors, setting up certification clinics for January! That is just a part of my assignments. Then on to Young Women's and the size of that job as well. Then of course preparations for Christmas for my family, oh, and get ready for a family reunion on Our Cruise on Jan. 1st. I guess there comes a time, I must go and reload or I am no good to anyone. Maybe the cruise is where I reload, huh???
BUT.....don't get me wrong, I am so grateful for the work. It keeps me thinking ahead, and of other things. I guess I relate very well to my daughter in trying to be everything to everyone and perfect in everything that there comes a moment of "I am drowning here". I think I'm there. Drowning that is.
I have a truckload of weaknesses that I keep trying to work on, only to fail daily. But that said, it does do one thing and that it brings me closer to my Heavenly Father who knows me perfectly. I am sure he is laughing a bit up there at me, don't you? Or maybe he is just saying "My dear Daughter, just Come to me and I will give you rest!"
AND, another thing those weaknesses do is to teach me that I can't do or be everything my heart desires to be. I just don't have that capacity. I just don't have the insight or the strength enough. But He does! So today, I am working at letting HIM take all my burdens, at least I will try.
Recently I received a parrot as a gift. The parrot had a bad attitude and even worse vocabulary.
Every word out of the bird's mouth was rude, obnoxious and laced with profanity. I tried and tried to change the bird's attitude by consistently saying only polite words, playing soft music and anything else I could think of to "clean up" the bird's vocabulary.
Finally, I was fed up and I yelled at the parrot. The parrot yelled back. I shook the parrot and the parrot got angrier and even ruder. So, in desperation, I threw up my hands, grabbed the bird and put him in the freezer.
For a few minutes the parrot squawked and kicked and screamed. Then suddenly there was total quiet. Not a peep was heard for over a minute. Fearing that I'd hurt the parrot, I quickly opened the door to the freezer.
The parrot calmly stepped out onto my outstretched arm and said, "I believe I may have offended you with my rude language and actions. I'm sincerely remorseful for my inappropriate transgressions and I fully intend to do everything I can to correct my rude and unforgivable behavior."
I was stunned at the change in the bird's attitude. As I was about to ask what had made such a dramatic change in his behavior, the bird continued, "May I ask what the turkey did?"
I just love these girls! And the feeling is very mutual! There is such a great connection between us. And what makes it happen is the way the their parents are so generous and giving!! I love my beautiful three neves girls!! We laugh, we sing, we eat, we shop, we have special dates! And, my daughter, is one of my closest friends, not just mother daughter, but a very dear close friend. This is what JOY means!!
As taken from Mormon Mommy Blogs! November 9, 2010 this may help some of you out there who have had this experience. ( I couldn't get the link to show up here for some reason so I just put it on here.) I have a few times, unfortunately from the same person who used my blog as a place to put me "in my place", especially interesting is it never had anything to do with anyone. Some people just grossly misinterpret others, but it is what it is. It is a "bully" world out there, gotta love em' though. I eventually used the method that I could screen them, makes it more peaceful!
Hope this helps.
I got my first mean comment the other day. I deleted it right away, but it has crushed me. I don't want to blog anymore because it's not fun. What should I do now? Was I wrong to delete it? Do I need to respond? How do you handle the haters?
~bring my blogging back
First of all, congratulations are in order. If you're getting mean comments, then You. Have. Made It. in the blogging world.
Seriously though, the first time you get a nasty comment, it hurts... A lot. It makes you question why you blog, and who you're really blogging for.
Are you wrong to delete a mean comment? No way, because it's your blog. It's your safe place on the internet. There is nothing wrong with deleting comments that personally attack you, because personal attacks on the internet are never okay.
Here at MMB, we get our fair share of "haters". There's not a day that goes by that we don't hear, read, or receive something that is meant to put us in our place.
We've been accused of feeding addiction, glamorizing death, encouraging contention, and of being "drama whores." We've been told we're frumpy, fat, terrible writers, awful mothers, shameful Mormons, and more. You name it, and it's been said. BUT.
We are still here.
We are still blogging.
We all use our blogs and Twitter as a platform for our voices. Is it narcissistic? Of course! Because everyone has something important to say. And we are all allowed to express our thoughts and opinions. The internet is a big place, and there is plenty of room for everyone.
Just remember, no one wins an online fight. Ever. Furthermore, those situations make the people on the sidelines a little bit uncomfortable. (Though we do admit, it can be fun to watch... you know, when it's not YOU.)
Our advice for dealing with mean comments:
1.It's not you, it's them: Rarely is a mean comment about you, the actual blogger. People have bad days, they mis-read your post, they don't "get" your humor, or something else that, had you been speaking to them IN PERSON, would never have been an issue. So they jump the gun and type out their response, and hit publish. It never crossed their mind to re-read the post, to make sure that they actually understood where you are coming from. THEY are having a bad day. THEY are the ones that need to rethink their words, their timing, and their actions. Not you. (Usually.) 2.Not everyone is going to like you: And that's okay! We can't all be best friends all the time. You don't have to like someone, but you can be civil. You can disagree thoughtfully, politely, and passionately, while using compassion and respect. Most mean comments left online are anonymous, and here's why: 1.) Because they KNOW that they shouldn't be typing what they are typing. and 2.) they're scared... because they know they shouldn't be typing what they just typed. 3.The Commenter is probably not your target audience. If you blog about being a mom and changing dirty diapers and your nasty commenter is ripping you to shreds because of that? NOT your target audience. Not everyone is going to like every single blog they come across. That's like saying everybody likes the same books/music/movies. You are allowed to like what you like, and dislike what you don't. Just because a blog is popular, doesn't mean it's a good fit for you, and vice versa. They are not your target audience, so don't sweat it. Your people will find you eventually, and then it will be puppies and sunshine all around. 4.Trolls. Trolls aren't just those hairy old creatures that hang-out underneath the bridge taunting Dora and Boots. They are actual people online who like to stir the pot. They leave mean, passive/aggressive comments... or tweets, or Facebook status updates, or etc, that are INTENTIONALLY meant to hurt, cause conflict, and create drama. The rule of thumb when dealing with a Troll is this: Don't. Feed. The Troll. Never. Never never ever. Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. We can't emphasize that enough. *IGNORE* Trolls are looking for attention and in order to make them go away, you simply ignore them. Eventually, they'll find someone who does give them the reaction they're looking for, but don't let it be you. And do us a favor, and don't become a troll to others by engaging the original troll. (how many times have we said troll so far?) When you come across something that you don't like, and it either encites an emotion from you, or in your book is just plain wrong? Don't engage. People LOVE to send stuff out onto the internet just to cause controversy. So again we say: Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. 5.Comment Moderation: One of the best ways to get rid of mean commenters is to not publish their comments on your blog. It’s your blog, your space, your HOME on the Internet. You can delete the comment forever from your blog so that it won’t even show up as “deleted by an administrator”. And if you have someone that consistently leaves comments that you don't like, have a friend be your moderator. That way, they delete all the crap, and you just get the good stuff. 6.The Delete Button Is Your Best Friend: Don’t be afraid to delete stuff. In real life, if a person were to say those things to you, would you sit there and do nothing? Would you let someone come into your home and berate you in front of your family? NO! You would walk away, or kick 'em out of your house. YOUR BLOG IS YOUR HOME. Deleting is your right. You don't have to leave anything up that you don't want to. However, be mindful not to overuse the delete button. Like we said earlier, you can welcome different opinions, and you can be civil; even your most loyal readers aren't going to agree with you 100% of the time. Besides, sometimes those mean comments are so ridiculous, you just have to laugh. 7.Take the MMB Break—Mommy McDonald’s Break: Whenever one of us is getting frustrated with something on the Internet, inevitably the other person will say: “You need a soda." Then we head to our friendly, local McDonalds, where the servers know our names, and get a large soda (Diet Coke for Elisa and Dr. Pepper for Caroline) before getting back online. We all get frustrated with people and things we see and read on the Internet. In the heat of the moment, you want to prove how right you are, and how horribly wrong they are. You do dumb stuff, and you say even dumber stuff. When you feel yourself getting frustrated, take the MMB Break. It works Every. Single. Time. It gives you the few minutes you need to clear your head and helps you come to your senses. (Because once it's OUT THERE, you can never take it back. Just ask the screen shot fairy.) 8.Have a Confidant: We all need someone that we can run to when people are being mean. When we were kids, it was our mommy. Now as adult it’s your spouse or your most trusted girl friend. You need that person that you can tell what is happening and they can be the voice of reason and talk you off the ledge. They are a necessary part of blogging and once you share your woes, and wallow in it together, they will help you see the humor and push you forward so you can move on. 9.Think before you type. Never say anything online that you wouldn’t say to a person’s face... in their front room.... in front of their mother. THINK before you type. It’s one thing to vomit things in the heat of the moment during an actual conversation, but it is quite another to do the same in the comment section of another blogger. You are writers, choose your words wisely. 10.Print out the comments. Now that sounds kind of weird, so go with us here for a second. They are hurtful and that's what they were designed to do, hurt you. Nurse that hurt. Examine the comment. Could anything be taken from it to help you be a better blogger, parent, or person in general? If so, then take what you can learn from it and toss the rest, then plant those printed out comments firmly on the ground in your driveway and run over them with your car. We promise you, you'll feel SO. MUCH. BETTER. In all seriousness though, CONGRATS! on getting your first mean comment and welcome to the world of blogging! Go forth and blog with confidence! And, remember this: the delete button is your friend!
Tychon made sure to remind me he was my favorite grandson #2 and Estee was my favorite granddaughter #3! Isn't that the cutest??! And Dave is one proud father! Such a great dad!! Who do you think they look like? There is certainly alot of Preston in them!! WE had such a great time at the Great Wolf Lodge and then Bellevue with them all!! Good times!! What a good family and we love them. What more can I say???
Elder Bednar said, "Commandments are "directions". They guide us,help us do things to lead us to Jesus Christ. Do we know why? Do we understand why? If we don't know the why then the power available of the doctrine of Christ will not be evident in our lives. If we do know the why, then that same power of the doctrine of Christ will become more available to us.
And I love this: If you break the rules, then the rules will break you! Keep the commandments You will receive light from the Lord and truth. We are happy, and they will give us guidance.
Also in listening to Sheri Dew's new talk on 4 things that wreck our lives, she says if she were the adversary and she wanted to wreck womens' lives, she would first get us to squabble and pick at each other! Women especially are the ones who do this very thing. The reason being is because there is a divine nature in women to nurture and Satan would do all in his power to destroy their purpose in being here on the earth. WOW, that is so evident. She pointed out that women have a sharp tongue and the early prophets had to pull the women together and tell them to "be nice".
So all you girls and women out there. Try with all your might to "be nice", to be nurturing and fulfill your mission here on the earth to love and bring relief to others suffering. Not add to it. I guess I have met a few mean spirited women in my time, but mostly because they have forgotten who they are and what kind of damage they do each time they succumb to it.
I just had to write a very short but one full of gratitude post today!! I don't know if that is good english, but it is a feeling of joy to see! I hope to post the picture of what it is I'm about to describe! BUT, my dear two sons, Jon and Nate went over to pick up our other dear son from Antelope Wells, New Mexico as he finished his big TOUR DIVIDE bike race. If you want to see the outcome and watch the SPOTS over the last three weeks in quick time go to tourdivide.org/leaderboard and find it. It is phenomenal to behold! It is a trip of perserverance, of diligence, of speed and of awe of nature. It is a trip of making new friendships with good people. But what really is a sight to see is watching the reunion of your three sons, (wish Lara were there) hug their brother and welcome him. I couldn't ask for better sons. I love them so much! I love their wives, who support them and love them! I love their love of family amidst the busyness of their lives! Jon, gave us several days of his time, work and money to go, Nate gave of what time he had from his work. And also, their two wives get along so well, and LOVE to be together! I know Lara and Sundy would love to be there just laughing and sharing in all their interests and strengths. Each has strengths that benefits the others and they all get on so beautifully, it is a sight to behold. Makes me smile and cry at the same time. Even though we live a distance apart, and we don't get to see each other often, are hearts are close and love is felt. I think that is how heaven will be. Busy but very connected. Thank you Jon, thank you Rachael, thank you Nate and thank you Brittany for thinking of each other. That does a mother's heart good!
Teaching Our Children to Love and Serve Each Other (Part 2) By H. Wallace Goddard
In the previous article http://meridianmagazine.com/myth/100617teaching.html we described a common sibling squabble and two of the most popular methods parents use to stop the battling: parental intrusion and lecturing. Both methods have a serious problem, they fail to teach children how to navigate their disagreements. I suggested five steps to help us engage our children and teach them to love and serve one another. In this article I discuss those five steps in more detail.
1. Engage your son in a gentle way. Harsh approaches arouse anxiety and block learning. The child becomes focused on our anger, entering a survival mode of thinking, and completely misses the message we are trying to communicate. Further, when we are upset, we are not able to parent effectively. In order to truly engage our children gently, we may need to take time out to get peaceful. If a situation requires immediate action, we might invite our children to also take a timeout in their rooms to prepare for a productive dialogue. But, even without their cooperation, the point is for us to get peaceful. It may take locking ourselves in our bedroom in order to pray and ask for guidance. When we’re finished, our spirits will be more at peace and ready to teach. God counsels us to use persuasion, long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, and genuine love. It is important to get his attention without arousing fear: “Son, we need to talk. Your sister is very upset by the way you treated her.”
2.: "I'm sure you didn't intend to hurt your sister’s feelings." We are often tempted to magnify the misdeeds in order to get our children to take our messages seriously. Yet when we “exercise control or dominion or compulsion upon the souls of the children of men, in any degree of unrighteousness, behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved” (D&C 121:37). In contrast, when we see our children through the lens of charity, we set the stage for love and learning. Just as we want to know our Heavenly Father still loves and sees the good in us when we mess up, our children need to know the same about their earthly parents as well. When we appreciate our children’s good intentions and sincere striving, we are more likely to find common ground.
3. Show that you understand your son’s point of view: "You just wanted to build without being distracted or interrupted." Compassion is the key to connecting. When accusation rather than compassion is in our hearts, we alienate. When, in contrast, I see from the child’s point of view, I am able to guide effectively. It may help us to remember how we felt when we were children and felt attacked or thwarted. Compassion is the heart of the healer’s art. Once the child is comforted, he is ready to learn.
4. Draw the child's attention to the distress of the victim: "When you ordered your sister to leave you alone, she felt sad. She felt that you don’t like to have her around. Maybe she even felt that you don’t like her.” There are really two parts to this step. Just as the Lord teaches us in our minds and in our hearts (See D&C 8:2), so we must inform our children’s minds and hearts. Both are essential for right behavior. We teach the mind about the law of the harvest—that timeless truth that we cannot sow weed seed and harvest a bounteous crop of grain. When we are unkind, we damage relationships. It is better to invite the child to learn his sister’s point of view: “I think your sister just wanted to be with you.” We also train our children’s hearts. This is delicate work! Heart surgery cannot be done with sledge hammers. Rather we gently invite our children to feel love and compassion for their siblings. “You might not know that your sister looks up to you. She wants to be like you. I hope you can find a way for her to be with you while still accomplishing the things you set out to do.” The objective in this approach is not for your son to be sunk in guilt but to be stirred to empathy and compassion. When we use harsh approaches with our children, they focus on their own distress and are likely to become stubborn and defensive. That’s not what we want. We want to help our children get outside their provincial view of their own needs and be able to see the needs of others. We cannot rush this process. When the child protests, “But she is the one who messed up my work!” we do not have to argue. We return to the third step, showing understanding for his point of view: “It’s pretty frustrating, isn’t it!” When the child feels genuinely understood, then he is ready to learn in his mind and in his heart. Help the child to feel genuine compassion for the one he has hurt. If we want our child to show compassion, we must model compassion. Naturally your child will resist your challenge: “She can’t start grabbing Legos when I’m building something.” We can argue that he shouldn’t be so unkind to his sister. And he will argue with us about his sister’s misdeeds. Rather than squabbling with the boy, we can show empathy: “It’s hard when you’re in the middle of a project and she interrupts you or starts using your Legos.” He does, after all, have a valid point. When we show him compassion, he is more able to show compassion for his sister. Incidentally, it may take several rounds of expressing understanding and compassion before he is ready to show compassion for his sister. Healing through compassion takes time, or, in the Lord’s language, “longsuffering and gentleness.”
5. Once the child feels understood (as evidenced by being calm and peaceful), then we can help the child think of a way to make repairs: "How could we help your sister feel loved and welcome without messing up your project?" When hearts are right creativity can rule. “Maybe I could help her build a house” or “I could provide her with some of the blocks.” It is a joyous surprise when children feel safe and loved and naturally love and serve each other.
Any parent might reasonably protest that this process takes a lot of time. You’re right! Parenting is not quick, simple, or convenient. Parenting is a large and continuing sacrifice. Yet it is also true that, when we teach children correct principles, they are more likely to govern themselves in righteousness. An hour spent teaching them in their youth can save years of conflict, struggle, and waywardness.
In the midst of sibling conflicts, it is common to try to figure out which child is the offender. This is rarely productive. Each child makes mistakes. One child intrudes, another is stingy. Rather than try to weigh offences, we invite all toward repentance. In the above process, the focus was on the son’s repenting, but a parallel process could operate with the daughter. We could show her compassion and help her understand her brother’s need to be able to concentrate. Getting our Hearts Right Perhaps the greatest challenge to effectively teaching children is that we simply cannot do it right unless our hearts are right. We cannot teach peace while our souls are at war. We cannot teach them the principles of love and goodness while bubbling with anger or annoyed by distractions. We draw on more of King Benjamin’s wisdom to learn God’s process. Let’s apply his general counsel to the task of parenting:
“For the natural [parent] is an enemy to God [and children], and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit . . .” We must yield to the gentle promptings and invitations of the Spirit if we are to be good parents. A parent who does so . . . “ . . . putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint . . .”
Becometh a saint! We become true followers and disciples of Christ. Through repentance we acknowledge our limitations and turn to Christ for better ideas and motivation. When we have the mind of Christ, we are prepared to parent effectively—to teach our children the right ways to relate to each other. How is this change in our approach accomplished? What power changes us? “ . . . through the atonement of Christ the Lord . . .” As Elder Bednar has taught us, the atonement not only cleanses us, it enables and strengthens us1. It is my conviction that we cannot parent as we should unless we allow the sweet peace and goodness that flows from Jesus to fill our hearts and souls. What does the atonement look like in the daily lives of parents? It includes simple but powerful principles: having faith in the Lord, repenting of our improper acts, feelings, and thoughts, making promises to God, and drawing on the power of the Holy Ghost to change our souls. Consider the wise counsel give by Amulek—and its application to the challenges of parenting: Therefore may God grant unto you, my brethren, that ye may begin to exercise your faith unto repentance, that ye begin to call upon his holy name, that he would have mercy upon you; Yea, cry unto him for mercy; for he is mighty to save. Yea, humble yourselves, and continue in prayer unto him. Cry unto him in your houses, yea, over all your household, both morning, mid-day, and evening. (Alma 34:17-19, 21) The Christlike parent recognizes our dependence on God, calls out for mercy, continues in prayer, and draws on the power of heaven. In parenting as in all things, He is the way, the truth, and the life. The process of forming our children’s souls requires great wisdom and patience. This should not surprise us. God gives us the opportunity to care for His precious children in His effort to make us more and more like Him—the Perfect Parent.
You may be interested in Brother Goddard’s books such as Soft-Spoken Parenting, Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage, and Between Parent and Child. For more information about his books or his schedule at Education Week, visit www.FamilyCollege.com Notes David A. Bednar, “In the Strength of the Lord,” Ensign, Nov 2004, 76–78
I know we did better than our parents did with the knowledge we gained over time. Each generation can get better if we work at it. I believe my children will do better than we did if they study it out and work at it everyday. But we will all make mistakes and many of them, and to that I quickly say, that is what my Savior did for me, covered my mistakes and poor judgment.
As with most things, there is the "other side" of gift giving - gift receiving. Receiving a gift should be an exciting and joyful occasion. How you react can tell the gift giver if they have accomplished what they set out to do. Typically, the goal of a gifty person is to find a gift that is perfect for the recipient. This is a gift the recipient will enjoy and will be happy to receive. Some people are good at finding "the perfect gift" while others struggle or even dread this task. Then, of course, you have the people who think they are gifty but just don't quite have the knack. If you know someone like this, you might want to hint that there are online shopping services to help them find gift ideas. In any case, the receiver should remember that an effort was made, no matter how big or small, an effort was still made. It is good etiquette to accept a gift graciously and saying thank you is important. How to Say Thank You The thank you should be in person when possible. If you are given a gift in person, say thank you even if the gift is opened at a different time. If the gift is opened at a later time, a thank you note sent to the giver would be appropriate. If you open the gift in front of the giver, always make sure, even if you don't like the gift or if it just isn't your style, that you don't let it show in your expression. Facial expressions can speak a thousand words. On some gift giving occasions, like baby showers or bridal showers, wedding, anniversary or graduation gifts, a thank you note should always be sent, even if you already expressed your gratitude in person. Many times these gifts are sent by mail or delivered directly to the recipient. Notifying the giver that the gift has arrived and expressing your gratitude through a phone call or email should be done promptly after a gift is received. A hand written thank you note should follow shortly after. As with receiving a gift, giving a gift should also be exciting. Everyone knows the joy of watching a child open a Christmas or birthday gift, the excitement in their eyes and voice as they pull out the toy they have always wanted. With many gift givers this means more than the actual gift, just knowing they have made you happy with their choice.
The Art of Receiving For every gift given, there is a gift received. Therefore, it seems strange that although most have mastered the art of giving, still many are not comfortable with the etiquette for receiving a gift. Recipients sometimes struggle with the humility required to receive a gift graciously. Although we are taught that “it is better to give than to receive,” our ability to receive is equallyas important as our ability to give. Giving is not a one-way street. In receiving a gift, we are immediately acknowledging the gift giver and returning the favor with a show of appreciation and kind words. Therefore, both the giver and the receiver can experience the benefits associated with giving. Receiving is a social skill and must be practiced. Gifts received when hosting a party, for a birthday or holiday are perfect opportunities to master this skill. Whether you are thrilled with the gift or not, express your appreciation by complimenting their thoughtfulness and generosity. Smile when the gift is handed to you and open it in the presence of the giver. Basically, to receive graciously requires more than just the words, “Thank You.” It requires focusing on someone who has done something special for you. Remember the old saying, “it is the thought that counts.” International Customs for Receiving Gifts Japan - It is customary to receive gifts with both hands, and before accepting a gift it is polite to refuse at least once or twice. China - A gift should be refused the gift three times before accepting it. The giver will continue to insist that you accept the gift. Ireland - Gifts are usually opened in front of the giver. When receiving a gift, it is customary to politely refuse a gift when it is first offered. Russia - Gifts for children are opened in private, while gifts for adults are opened in the presence of others. If your gift is well-received, you will hear many 'thank-yous. Arab Cultures - Gifts are received with the right hand, not with the left. Using both hands, however, is acceptable. South Korea - When a person receives a gift, it is customary for the recipient to give another gift of similar value in return at a later time. Singapore - People will usually refuse a gift before accepting it and gifts are not unwrapped in the presence of the giver. These customs are to prevent the recipient from appearing greedy. Related Links The Thank You Note Etiquette for Office / Business Gift Giving When Gifts Should be Opened When you Should Give a Gift Declining a Gift Retrieved from "http://www.giftypedia.com/Receiving_a_Gift"
I love this post!! It is really up to us to teach proper ettiquette in all things. So everyone, even if the kids rebell or joke about it, it still is important we learn just how "to be" in our social lives at home and in public!!
So I have been following this one blog and today this person was talking about the "it's okay" things. So, I thought I would put into writing what I feel is "ok" too.
It's okay------to eat candy once in awhile and really have alot It's okay------to cry in a movie or show that touches your heart. It's okay------to spill or to make a mess and not clean it up once in a while. It's okay------to let your children see your hurts. It's okay------to laugh loud, really loud when something is funny. It's okay------let the laundry go for a few days. It's okay------to eat at Bajio's twice a week. It's okay------ to pass gas, everyone does it. It's okay------to struggle. It's okay------to hate ketchup. It's okay------to not like certain behaviors. It's okay------to desire respect and love. It's okay------to have a problem and sort through it. It's okay------to just be. It's okay -----to be imperfect. Holy Cow, we all are!
It's NOT okay-----to give up! It's NOT okay-----to compare our weaknesses to others strengths! Or compare AT ALL! It's NOT okay-----to put others down especially without understanding. We will NEVER know others circumstances, only God does.
What we really need to do though is LISTEN Listen with our hearts, Listen with our minds, Listen with our eyes.
No competition. Just understanding.
So I loved this opportunity to be reminded it's okay to have imperfections, and look to the Savior to help us with them! Look UP not SIDEWAYS for our self-worth!
Elder Dallin H. Oaks holds a very special place in our hearts here at the Preston home!! Not only because he is a member of the Quorum of the twelve Apostles, but because he is the father to a special friend and neighbor of mine. As of late, we have had the privilege of talking with him, of listening to him and being around him. First, was his grandson getting married and he was there to chat with about Mikes' days in the football locker room when he was Pres. of BYU! He is just so charming and when he laughs he throws his head back and lets out a jovial, full laugh. I LOVE IT!! And so does my husband. He is always happy and loves to mingle with people!
He spoke at Women's Conference this last week along with his wife. To put his talk into a paragraph, he said, "When we're centered on Christ and service to our fellow man, we have a standard of right and wrong, and we know what to do about it. Service is an imperative for true followers of Christ.".....he talked about the causes of stress, including financial, emotional and physical issues. Women, who are prominently positioned as nurturers, sometimes need a break from the weight put upon them. The result of these stresses,is fear. Fear is the opposite of faith. The answer to the fear caused by all of these stresses is the HOPE and ASSURANCE that comes from the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Our faith causes us to trust in its author. His strength is sufficient to sustain us, and His promises are sure." Sounds like a Primary song, yes?
Sis. Oaks said, "As women, too, w set very high expectations for ourselves, at times we feel mired down by personal inadequacies, both real and imagined, sometimes counting calories more than counting blessings." She said, the world is already full of challenges and opposition and self-criticism is unnecessary. No one is expected to make it through this life alone, and Sis. Oaks emphasized the importance of remembering the presence of an almighty, loving Father.
Elder Oaks offered prophetic counsel: "service is the antidote for the amorality and individualism that corrodes our society." He cautioned women to be aware of the adversary's attempts to magnify selfish desires. LDS need to be vigilant and hold fast to eternal truths. Elder Oaks mother would say at home: "It's amazing how much you can get done if you don't worry about who gets the credit." He also cautioned sisters to be conscious of motives behind service and to ensure self-gratification is not one of them. We may fool man or ourselves, but we cannot fool the Lord. The Lord sees our hearts. he knows our motives and our reasons for service.
The best motivator for service is the LOVE OF GOD and his children.
Sis. Oaks asked the listeners to "become a bit more patient, a bit more diligent, quicker to smile. less inclined to find fault, more temple attending, more modest, and study the scriptures and learn sound doctrine.
Good righteous decisions on a daily basis will have large consequences. Even in trying times, always stand by the values and principles taught by the gospel of Jesus Christ. Choose the better part, trust in our Lord.
Then yesterday, I went to a member of our Ward's funeral. Carl Hawkins. And Elder Oaks and Elder Hafen was there to speak. What a most wonderful, spiritual experience that was! How one life made such a difference in the Lord's kingdom because he made the decision to do so. But the most wonderful thing to hear from an Apostle was that this man was with Nelma and he was seeing his salvation. And we knew Carl and Nelma well, they were a great example of integrity, of sound mind, of respect, of service, of Love for the Lord and using their intellect and time for the purpose of building the kingdom.
So, hence, I feel great gratitude for being in attendance and for reading Elder Oaks words. There truly is nothing like walking amongst the disciples of Christ.
Goodness!!! After being so careful with my diet for so long, I have been a little off the wagon. I had a chocolate chip cookie on the ottoman because a phone call came in. Soooooo, guess whoooooo came over and snuck it?????
You got it, it was Daisy, the one who lies in wait for opportunity!!
She took it and ran! So guess what, I guess that means. NO MORE for me!!
Okay guys, I gotta say, Christina's "sweet" blog is mean't just for her! But her words are for you to get up and cooking! She is an inspiration of hard work and diligence!! Go read it and follow her day to day workouts! It isn't easy to say the least!! AND she has kids and she homeschools. None of us have a single excuse NOT to exercise!
This past week I received a sweet email on my deniprestonfitness.com website requesting that a gal would write up her feelings on working out to Total Body Workout! It was such a sweet request and so I went to her blog! She has been recording her feelings of each workout and I loved hearing how she felt. So I am inviting you to go to her blog just to read her feelings and watch her results as she goes through every workout from the show, is that just the most flattering thing you have ever heard of?
It is girls like her that made that grueling time so all worth it for all who were involved with the show. I know the producer, Kendall, would get a great deal of satisfaction that he served so many women like her so well, at a very busy time in their lives.
Thank you to all who participated, with blood, sweat and tears as it developed from a brainchild to the production!!
Happiness is being with my daughter and her girls and singing Opera! Happiness is staying up late with Lara and talking about life! Happiness is sharing an ipod with Chloe and singing "Popular" together! Happiness is hearing Sophie say I want to go with Mamah on the airplane!! Happiness is going on Mamah/Granddaughter dates! Happiness is working together with Bria and chattering!! Happiness is watching Joel conduct and be professional, but at home he is Joel and makes me laugh with his quick wit! Happiness is getting a phone call from my youngest son exclaiming he got a 160 on his LSAT!!! Happiness is working along side my middle son, laughing and organizing the garage, especially throwing away stuff that hasn't been used for a year or two!! Happiness is watching my daughter-in-law who is throwing up expecting her first be so excited about being a mother!! Happiness is cheering my daughter-in-law on in her new photography business!! Happiness is getting an email from my eldest son enthused about our big family cruise this year!! Happiness is having long conversations on the phone with Tychon, my grandson in Seattle and talking about anything and everything!! Happiness is watching video of Estee dancing freely! Happiness is playing with Brayden and Daxton in the yard and trying very hard to make a basket! Happiness is really receiving lots of hugs and kisses from all of them. Happiness is going to bed at night and listening to my husband read out loud to me!! Happiness is talking about spiritual things with him! Happiness is leading the stake choir for UVU! Happiness is being with the youth and laughing! Happiness is teaching my exercise classes with all of those kids who think I know what I'm doing! Happiness is sitting by the fire and reading. Happiness is when the sun shines, life is good.
Am I blessed or what and that ain't nothing yet! So much more I can say!
Thanks Lara for encouraging what happiness is........
My dear friends, God is a God of miracles!! If you don't believe me just go to my very best friend Barb's neighbor's blog who has experienced this first hand.
While she suffering, she shared with all of us the story, of which I will not ruin for you. She kept us all posted for the last two weeks in perfect detail the incident, the feelings, the heartfelt thoughts, the questions. And then every minute miracle.
Please take 30 minutes to scroll down to the beginning and follow to the present, you will be forever changed!!
Okay everyone, here you go, this is too funny!! I found this in Nate's papers I have kept on Marriage from BYU. I think you will get a good laugh out of this!!
THE RULES OF MARRIAGE 1. The wife always makes the rules. 2. The rules are subject to change at any time without prior notification. 3. No husband can possibly know the rules. 4. If the wife suspects the husband knows all the rules, she must immediately change some of the rules. 5. The wife is never wrong. 6. If the wife is wrong, it is because of a flagrant misunderstanding which was a direct result of something the husband did or said wrong. 7. If Rule 6 applies, the husband must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding. 8. The wife can change her mind at any given point of time. 9. The husband must never change his mind without express written consent from the wife. 10. The wife has every right to be angry or upset at any time. 11. The husband must remain calm at all times, unless the wife wants him to be angry or upset. 12. The wife must under no circumstances let the husband know whether or not she wants him to be angry or upset. LOL!! Enjoy!
Today my friend Sue Olson brought over a DVD she made for us of my family opening up Chrustmas gifts in December 1992 AND singing with Lara, her son Mike, and Chris Cotant. Plus, I saw myself and Barb doing aerobics in SFH 283 trying to remember and memorize routines back then as well. This was 18 years ago, mind you and it simply blew me away to watch it. These were the few things I gleaned from watching it today:
1) My hair was full and bouncy!! (No thyroid problems there!)
2) I still wear RED lipstick and LOVE it!
3) I'm still teaching! Whoa.
4) Lara's voice is angelic and gorgeous! And such a good daughter!!
5) Dave is so handsome, with a beautiful smile and such a good son!!
6) Jon is so handsome, with a great sense of humor and such a good son!!
7) Nate is so handsome, with a wonderful ability to laugh at us and such a good son!!
8) Mike is such a handsome man and a great husband and dad!!
9) I was always sick with laryngitis!
10) We didn't really have much at all, broken chairs, broken blinds, broken everything, but we had HAPPY kids.
11) We had a happy cocker spaniel who adored Jon!
12) I was maybe a little too serious at times, I didn't like that about myself!!
13) The kids were always playing around and enjoying each other, even at times when they were annoyed with each other!!
14) I think I may have worried too much, glad I am overcoming that!
15) Dave loved to play the piano for Lara as she sang! I loved it too!!
16) I simply love my children and KNOW they are exquisitly good people with bright minds and smarts beyond anybody I know!
17) I know they LOVE us, their parents!! They truly are goodly children!
Okay so I have three kids committing to going off sugar and so I have decided to do this too! After reading Lara's blog and talking to Nate and Jon, I am with you all the way!! BUT, will you help hold me accountable please???? I will pay you 50.00 if I eat some, this list includes candy, cookies, cakes, pies, pastries, things of that nature. Not the hidden sugars like in marinara, okay? How about it Lara???? How about it Jon????? Nate?????? The challenge starts January 8th for me. I'm in!!
I love it when Christmas comes and we celebrate and then when it's over!! Because here comes the New Year! It feels so fresh, so clean to me!
Last Sunday one of the Stake Persidency spoke at sacrament meeting and shared his story. Oh, he loved New Year's. He loved to just lay around in his pajamas and watch football all day long and eat and sleep. But as alot of us, one day he married . He married a beautiful Japanese girl, who the first year they were married announced on New Year's Eve they were going to get rid of the dust of the past year and look forward to the new year by cleaning!! Cleaning out every room, nook, cranny, office space, drawer, etc etc. This was their tradition!
They would get rid of the stuff that was not useful, that was cluttering up their space, that was old and they would clean, deeply. That it just didn't apply to the material things, but the things of the heart too. To get rid of the things that held them back emotionally, spiritually and mentally.
To look forward to a perfect brightness of hope!!
I loved this, I want to do this. The funny thing was, that both Mike and I on the 26th had begun that process already and it was like an assurance we were doing the right thing from the Spirit. Today we did a great deal more and hopefully before school starts on Wednesday, we will complete what we set out to do.
Now, with the things cleaned up and moved out, we can now focus on our thoughtful goals for the year. We have decided to focus on: